- Business Insider 18:00January 19, 20207 things mentally strong people don't waste time doing, according to a psychotherapistDaxiao Productions/Shutterstock Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, mental strength coach, and international bestselling author.
She says mentally strong people all have one thing in common: They are essentialists.
They focus their energy on achieving their goals, instead of getting stuck wasting time on things that don't matter.
The more aware you are of your unhealthy habits, the better chance you have of overcoming them.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Some people seem to think that being strong means being able to do anything and everything. But the truth is that mentally strong people are essentialists. They don't feel the need to try to be all things to all people. Instead, they put their time and energy into the things that matter most.
They say no to things that might distract them from their goals, and they refuse to waste their valuable energy on things that don't really matter. Here are seven things mentally strong people don't waste time doing:1. Worrying about what others think
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Worrying about other people's opinions and fearing their judgment will impact every aspect of your life, from what you wear to how you parent your kids. It can cause you to avoid taking risks and doing things where you might get criticized or rejected — like applying for a new job or speaking up to someone who hurt you.
Mentally strong people don't make it their job to make other people happy. They're confident in who they are, and they ensure that their priorities are in line with their values. They focus their efforts on reaching goals and doing their best, regardless of what other people think.
2. Overthinking things
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You won't catch a mentally strong person stuck in analysis paralysis. They refuse to overthink things. Instead, they evaluate their options and take action.
They know the risks they take and that the choices they make won't always be perfect. But they have confidence that they'll be okay no matter what happens.
3. Beating themselves up
Mentally strong people accept full responsibility for their actions. But they don't engage in toxic self-blame.
They refuse to beat themselves up for their mistakes, because they know that harsh self-criticism isn't effective. Instead, they know that self-compassion is the key to doing better, and so they choose to speak to forgive themselves when they mess up.
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- The Guardian(UK) 15:48January 19, 2020Eating disorders: 12 deaths in seven years led to coroner warningsCampaigners say too many young people receiving poor-quality mental health careAt least 12 highly vulnerable people with eating disorders have died over the last seven years after failings in care that were so severe that coroners issued legal warnings to hospitals to try to prevent more deaths.Coroners were so alarmed by the failings that they sent official warnings to 11 trusts that provided care for people with anorexia and bulimia between 2013 and 2019, Guardian analysis shows. Continue reading...
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- Huffington Post UK 09:00January 19, 2020Ian 'H' Watkins Reveals Life-Long Battle With Insomnia: 'I've Tried Everything'
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- The Guardian(UK) 23:40January 17, 2020Betfred owner linked to firm that advises people struggling with high debtCampaigners raise fresh concerns about Done family business after Guardian reveals interest in gambling addiction counsellingBetfred owners make millions from treating gambling addictsWho are Fred and Peter Done, the brothers behind Betfred?How Britain got the gambling bugFred Done, one of the billionaire Tory donors who owns bookmaker Betfred, also bankrolls a company that makes money advising people struggling with high debts, it has emerged.MPs and campaigners raised fresh concerns about the Done family’s business empire, a day after the Guardian revealed that brothers Fred and Peter Done own a company that provides services including gambling addiction counselling to the public sector. Continue reading...
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- The Guardian(UK) 20:01January 17, 2020Schools 'converting toilet blocks into isolation booths'Children’s commissioner describes ‘horror stories’ of children put in isolationSchools are converting toilet blocks and classrooms to build isolation booths to accommodate “disruptive” children, the children’s commissioner has said, as campaigners warn that excessive use of the practice could be putting young people’s mental health at risk.Anne Longfield said she had heard “horror stories” about children’s experiences in isolation booths – spaces in which pupils sit in silence for hours as punishment for breaking school rules and disruptive behaviour. Continue reading...
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- The Guardian(UK) 03:01January 17, 2020Academics call for social media data to protect young peopleRoyal College of Psychiatrists hope research will shine light on interaction and reduce suicide ratesSocial media firms such as Facebook and Instagram should be forced to hand over data about who their users are and why they use the sites to reduce suicide among children and young people, psychiatrists have said.The call from the Royal College of Psychiatrists comes as ministers finalise plans to crack down on issues caused by people viewing unsavoury material and messages online. Continue reading...
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- Business Insider 22:28January 16, 20203 things 'You' gets right about serial killers, and 2 things it gets wrongNetflix
Editor's note: This story contains spoilers for the television show "You." Netflix's original thriller series "You" follows serial killer Joe Goldberg as he stalks, obsesses over, and wins the love of different women.
Goldberg also kills various people in his love interest Beck's life as a way to get closer to her.
At times, the show accurately depicts serial killers, like the fact they often kill their victims using the same technique.
But unlike Goldberg's character, serial killers aren't always motivated by love and sex.
Visit Insider's homepage for more. On December 26, Netflix released the highly-anticipated second season of its original thriller series "You," which centers around narrator Joe Goldberg, a young man who has a pattern of becoming obsessed with certain women, stalking them, winning them over, and killing anyone around them he believes has done them wrong.
In both seasons, Goldberg goes on killing sprees over many months, which could classify him as a serial killer, or someone who repeatedly commits murder and usually does so in a pattern, like killing all of the victims in the same way or killing the same types of people, according to the American Psychological Association.
In Goldberg's case, he tortures and kills his victims using the same method: forcing them into a glass box.
Although "You" gets some facts about serial killers correct, like their their ability to charm unsuspecting victims, the show also generalizes serial killer traits and actions through its depiction of Goldberg. As a result, viewers may misunderstand what a serial killer actually is.
Here's what "You" gets right and wrong about serial killers.Fact: Serial killers tend to appear charismatic and charming.
Goldberg, played by Penn Badgley, is handsome and charming. In the beginning of the show's first episode, he has no trouble getting the attention of his soon-to-be obsession and love interest, Beck.
Additionally, fans of the show haven't been shy about sharing the fact they're enamored by Goldberg, even though he's a serial killer.
Non-fictional serial killers do indeed tend to use their wit and charm to win over others' trust and manipulate them into getting what they personally want.
They're also often able to use these traits to fly under the radar. According to the FBI, many now-known serial killers previously went unnoticed because they appeared, on the surface, to lead normal lives with families, homes, and steady jobs.
Fact: Serial killers tend to have underlying personality disorders.
Although the show never reveals what they are, mental health experts previously told Insider Goldberg exhibits certain traits that suggest he has antisocial personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder, Insider previously reported.
According to the National Institutes of Health, people with antisocial personality disorder lack empathy, and as a result, may act in ways that society considers morally unsound, like manipulating others to get what they want or violating another's privacy.
People with narcissistic personality disorder have an inflated sense of self-importance and lack of empathy for others, which are typically mechanisms used to mask their low self-esteem, according to the Mayo Clinic.
It's true that real-life serial killers tend to have underlying mental illnesses that drive them to act the way they do.
According to the FBI, known serial killers have been diagnosed with various mental health disorders including antisocial personality disorder, which is often referred to as sociopathy or psychopathy, although the medical community doesn't recognize these terms.
Having a personality disorder, however, doesn't cause you to be a serial killer, and people with mental illness in general are much more likely to be victims of violence than perpetrators.
Fact: Serial killers find a way to justify their actions.
In season 1 of "You," Goldberg hit a man named Benji, his love interest Beck's boyfriend at the time, over the head with a mallet, locked him in a glass box, and killed him a few days later.
Later in the season, Goldberg also killed Beck's best friend Peach because he didn't like how Beck and Peach's relationship interfered with his and Beck's relationship.
Goldberg justifies these murders by telling himself that the people he killed weren't good enough for Beck and needed to be out of her life.
Non-fictional serial killers are also able to guiltlessly justify their crimes because they lack empathy, a hallmark trait of antisocial personality disorder.
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- The Guardian(UK) 18:20January 16, 2020Teenager who threatened suicide on road prosecuted for third timeIn ‘worrying’ case woman told by Manchester judge to stop wasting police timeA teenager with long-term mental health problems has been prosecuted three times in the last nine months after threatening suicide near busy roads.The 19-year-old woman was pulled to safety from a road by Greater Manchester police officers last Sunday, while still serving a community order for her previous offences. Continue reading...
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- The Guardian(UK) 14:52January 16, 2020Betfred owners make millions from company treating gambling addictsTory party donors Fred and Peter Done run health and wellbeing firm offering treatment to government staffThe brothers who own high street bookmaker Betfred are making millions from a business that provides treatment for health problems, including gambling addiction for public sector staff, the Guardian can disclose.Betfred’s owners, the billionaire Tory party donors Fred and Peter Done, also own Health Assured, which holds dozens of government contracts to provide staff health and wellbeing programmes. Continue reading...
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- The Guardian(UK) 10:33January 16, 2020NHS should not have to pick up pieces from bookmakers' tactics, warns health chiefNHS boss urges industry to take action to reduce ‘likelihood and severity’ of addictionThe health service should not be left to pick up the pieces after gambling firms use tactics to keep those with addiction issues from escaping a cycle they want to escape, the NHS’s mental health chief.In a letter addressed to the Gambling Commission, the NHS’s national mental health director, Claire Murdoch, said: “As the head of England’s mental health services and a nurse of more than 30 years’ experience, I have seen first-hand the devastating impact on mental wellbeing of addiction and am concerned that the prevalence of gambling in our society is causing harm.” Continue reading...
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- Huffington Post UK 10:00January 16, 2020What People Get Wrong About Living With Both Anxiety And Depression
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- Huffington Post UK 10:00January 15, 2020What Happens To Your Brain And Body When You're Stressed About Money
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- Business Insider 19:56January 14, 2020The struggle YouTubers are facing with their body image isn't just a result of vanity. It's a long-standing battle between hate comments, constant comparisons, and self-compassion.Gabbie Hanna / YouTube It has become fairly common for YouTubers to document their cosmetic procedures for their subscribers.
Tana Mongeau, Jeffree Star, and Trisha Paytas are just some of the creators who have filmed their experiences to give a backstage look at what goes on in the nurse's chair.
While getting cosmetic procedures isn't necessarily the result of low self-esteem, YouTubers are in a position to be more at risk of struggling with body dysmorphia.
For starters, they are always turning the camera on themselves, and are subject to criticism and trolling from millions of people. Thousands of the comments posted are about their appearance.
"If there's something you can do to protect your mental state that will make you happier, I'm all for it," YouTuber Gabbie Hanna told Insider. "Because, unfortunately, the world's not gonna change as quickly as we would like. We can't stop everybody from commenting."
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. In the middle of one of Shane's Dawson's videos "The Ugly Side of the Beauty World," his partner's sister Morgan Adams pulled out her Invisalign retainer.
"I have to get my teeth straight," she said, half-jokingly. "I feel like people will like me more if I have straighter teeth. It's a theory."See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Behind the scenes with Shepard Smith — the Fox News star who just announced his resignation from the networkSee Also:'Bridge statements' are a great way to help you build up healthier self-esteem, according to this YouTuber therapistA YouTuber opened up about her friends forcing her into psychiatric hospital because of her eating disorderJake Paul said he 'fell out of love' with his wife Tana Mongeau and 'in love' with boxing
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- Business Insider 19:38January 14, 2020'You' fans think Joe is a psychopath, but mental health experts say they're wrongNetflix
Editor's note: This article contains spoilers for the television show "You." When season 1 of "You" aired, fans took to Twitter to discuss Goldberg's mental health, though he's never diagnosed with a particular condition in either season. Still, many viewers seemed to believe he is a psychopath.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:A YouTuber opened up about her friends forcing her into psychiatric hospital because of her eating disorder'Bridge statements' are a great way to help you build up healthier self-esteem, according to this YouTuber therapistI've never had sex and have a history of sexual trauma. How can I prepare for the first time with my soon-to-be spouse?
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- Business Insider 19:05January 14, 2020A YouTuber opened up about her friends forcing her into psychiatric hospital because of her eating disorderKati Morton / YouTube YouTuber Eugenia Cooney left YouTube in February 2019 to seek help for an eating disorder. She has since returned to the platform and opened up about her mental health to her subscribers.
In a recent video, Cooney spoke to YouTuber and therapist Kati Morton about what it was like to be put on a 5150 — a 72-hour psychiatric hold — by her friends.
She said she felt ambushed because she was starting to think about entering a program herself. Instead, she was sent to a psychiatric hospital against her will, and entered an unnerving and scary environment.
Morton helped explain what a 5150 actually means, and how for some people it can do more harm than good.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. YouTuber Eugenia Cooney disappeared from the platform in February 2019 to work on her health with a doctor, after years of subscribers and the wider community speculating over her incredibly low weight and the possibility of her having a severe eating disorder.
Cooney reappeared in July in an hour-long documentary posted by one of YouTube's most popular creators Shane Dawson, and since then her channel has gone back to business as usual, with beauty tutorials, Q&A videos, and try on hauls.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A 45-year-long study discovered trends in successful hyper-intelligent childrenSee Also:'Bridge statements' are a great way to help you build up healthier self-esteem, according to this YouTuber therapistA creator who has become YouTube's supervillain called 911 when reporter Chris Hansen knocked on his door to ask him about accusations of grooming underage fansWhy you should drop the new year's resolution you're really struggling with already
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- Huffington Post UK 10:00January 14, 2020These Are The Most Common Issues People Discuss In Therapy
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- Huffington Post UK 03:15January 14, 2020Burnout Is Bad For Your Heart. Here’s How To Stop It
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- Huffington Post UK 15:36January 13, 2020Doctors Surgery Trials Group GP Sessions. Could It Catch On?
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- Business Insider 18:00January 12, 2020Our brains are wired to worry. Here's how we can calm down, according to a professor of medicine.Shutterstock/Marcos Mesa Sam Wordley
James Carmody is a professor of medicine and population health sciences at University of Massachusetts Medical School.
Worrying occurs when the planning our brains are always doing — thinking about will meet our needs or hinder them — takes over our attention with no good effect.
To combat this, mindfulness can be key: It can help redirect your attention and put you back in the moment.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. A new year brings both hopes and anxieties. We want things to be better for ourselves and the people we love, but worry that they won't be, and imagine some of the things that might stand in the way. More broadly, we might worry about who's going to win the election, or even if our world will survive.
As it turns out, humans are wired to worry. Our brains are continually imagining futures that will meet our needs and things that could stand in the way of them. And sometimes any of those needs may be in conflict with each other.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:Here's how countries that are in conflict — like the US and Iran — are still able to talk to each other7 things mental health experts wish you knew about anxietyWhat 8 different types of arguments can tell you about your relationship, according to researchersSEE ALSO: Being a psychotherapist taught me that almost everyone shares one insecurity
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- Business Insider 17:50January 12, 2020Meet the developer group trying to break the mental health stigma in tech, where moving fast and breaking things leads developers to burnout and health issuesDistill In 2013, developer Ed Finkler founded Open Sourcing Mental Illness (OSMI), an organization that promotes mental health in tech through online resources, handbooks, research, and speaking at tech conferences.
OSMI data suggests that developers face higher rates of mental health issues than the general population.
The group attributes this to how developers often find themselves working long hours with little sleep, leading to serious health risks and a heightened possibility of burnout.
Volunteers at OSMI hope to break down the stigma of talking about mental health, encourage people to reach out for help, create a more supportive environment at tech companies, and provide free resources that anyone can use.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. There's a toll that can come with the "move fast and break things" mentality of Silicon Valley. While developers may work late into the night to hack the next big thing into existence, that also comes with the risk of long-term effects to their health and burnout.
That's why developer Ed Finkler wants to raise awareness about mental health issues to the tech community and encourage people to talk about it. He started the organization Open Sourcing Mental Illness (OSMI) in 2013 after he gave a talk at a conference for PHP, a programming language that has been used for building websites like Facebook and Yahoo.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: How to find water when you're stuck in the desertSee Also:A shortage of developers is going to lead to a boom in tools that help make simple apps without coding, and Microsoft stands to benefit, analyst saysMicrosoft explains how a new walkie-talkie mode in its Teams chat app is part of a strategy to help companies modernize and get ahead in the cloud warsGoldman Sachs is going through a huge transformation under CEO David Solomon. Here's everything you need to know.SEE ALSO: Software freedom vs human freedom: A surge of activism is rocking open source developers, as programmers fight to stop their software from being used for 'evil'
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- Business Insider 14:12January 12, 2020Why you should drop the new year's resolution you're really struggling with alreadypicture alliance / Getty New year's resolutions are a great way of testing ourselves and improving willpower. But they can also do more harm than good.
Psychologist Niels Eék, the cofounder of mental health and wellbeing app Remente, told Insider you should only really consider making a resolution if deadlines are a good motivator for you. Otherwise, you'll probably fail pretty quickly.
Setting a goal can trick the brain into thinking you've already achieved something. But this means more disappointment if your resolution isn't going to plan.
"By not meeting your goal, your brain will react as if you have taken something away that it already had and, therefore, will become upset and react by cutting off your supply of dopamine [the feel-good hormone]," Eék said. "Feelings of anger, disappointment, and embarrassment may arise instead."
If you've lost sight of why you made the resolution and it's making you feel like a miserable failure, then you should probably throw in the towel.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. We're nearing the middle of January, and chances are your new year's resolution is already feeling like a bit of a battle. Resolutiions are a helpful tool for testing ourselves and improving our willpower, but if you're having a really hard time sticking to your new vow, you might be better off giving up.
Psychologist Niels Eék, the cofounder of mental health and wellbeing app Remente, told Insider resolutions can offer us direction if we're suffering from end of year anxiety about what we actually achieved in the previous 12 months, and making clear future goals can really help us focus.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Why red and green are the colors of ChristmasSee Also:'Bridge statements' are a great way to help you build up healthier self-esteem, according to this YouTuber therapistI planked for a minute every day for a month, and was surprised when I actually noticed a flatter stomachDavid Dobrik flew to Las Vegas to put $20,000 of his friend's money on black and won for 'like the fifth or sixth' time in a row
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- Business Insider 16:00January 11, 20207 things mental health experts wish you knew about anxietyFertnig/Getty Images Anxiety is fairly common — nearly 18% of the population has an anxiety disorder. Yet, it's often misunderstood.
While it's an emotion meant to keep you safe, sometimes it's triggered by things that aren't threatening — and can impact you cognitively and physically.
It's often not rational — so changing the environment that's triggering it can make a big difference.
When it impairs your functioning, anxiety becomes a disorder. But the good news is that it's treatable.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Whether anxiety causes you to feel physically ill or keeps you awake for countless hours, it can be quite uncomfortable — and its effects are often far reaching. It can take a toll on almost every area of your life.
Developing a better understanding of what anxiety is — and how to manage it — can be key to living a better life. But anxiety is one of the most misunderstood emotions of all time. Here are seven things mental health experts wish everyone knew about anxiety.1. Anxiety is meant to keep you safe, but your anxiety alarm is faulty
Anxiety is a normal, healthy emotion meant to warn you of danger. If you didn't experience any anxiety, you wouldn't run out of a burning building, and you wouldn't look both ways before you cross the street.
But no one's anxiety alarm bell is 100% foolproof. There will be times when your mind and your body respond as if you're in a life or death situation — even though you're not in any real danger.
Giving a talk in public or asking someone on a date might trigger an anxiety alarm bell, even though neither situation will kill you. Learning how to separate real alarms from false alarms is key to managing your anxiety.
Simply recognizing that your brain and body are overreacting to a seemingly harmless event can empower you to take positive action. Acknowledge that you're not in any real danger and you'll quiet your alarm bell enough to move forward in a productive manner.
2. Anxiety affects you emotionally, cognitively, and physically
Most people talk about anxiety as an emotion. But anxiety also affects your brain and your body.
When you feel anxious, you're more likely to think about things that fuel your anxiety. You might ruminate on bad things that happened in the past, or you may dwell on catastrophic predictions about the future.
Your body will respond accordingly. Your heart rate and your blood pressure might increase. You might begin to breathe faster, and you may break into a sweat. These reactions are meant to prepare you for action (it's known as the fight-or-flight response).
Knowing how to calm both your mind and your body when you feel anxious makes it much easier to face anxiety-provoking situations.
3. Anxiety isn't rational
It's easy to believe that your anxiety means you're in danger. But anxiety isn't always rational.
You might feel anxious when you're safe and sound in your home. Or you might experience a random spike in anxiety when you're sitting at your desk. How you respond to increased anxiety makes a big difference in how long it lasts and how intense it feels.
If you panic and convince yourself that you can't stand feeling uncomfortable, or that your anxiety is a sure sign of impending doom, you'll stay in an uncomfortable heightened state.
But if you embrace it — rather than fight it — you might feel better faster. Accept that anxiety feels uncomfortable, but remind yourself that you can tolerate distress.
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- Business Insider 14:19January 11, 2020'Bridge statements' are a great way to help you build up healthier self-esteem, according to this YouTuber therapistKati Morton YouTuber and therapist Kati Morton said "bridge statements" are a great way to start building up your self-esteem.
She told Insider it's almost impossible to go from the negative messages we send ourselves straight to positive affirmations, but a bridge statement lets you get there slowly.
"Let's say we have really bad body image and we think we're fat and ugly," she said. "Then the bridge statement could be like: 'It's possible that I'm not as ugly as I think I am. I might be, but it's possible that I'm not. I could be over-reacting.'"
Social media makes it harder because there's a nearly endless supply of enviable lifestyles that you can stare at on your phone at any time.
A helpful step to take is to pay attention to what you digest online, unfollow anyone or anything that makes you feel bad about yourself, and take breaks from being online entirely, if possible.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Being kinder to yourself is something more or less everyone struggles with at some point. Most of us would never dream of talking to other people the way we scold ourselves in our own heads.
Kati Morton, a YouTuber and therapist who helps her 847,000 subscribers improve and understand their mental health, told Insider it's almost impossible to go from the negative messages we send ourselves straight to positive affirmations.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Behind the scenes with Shepard Smith — the Fox News star who just announced his resignation from the networkSee Also:Jake Paul said he 'fell out of love' with his wife Tana Mongeau and 'in love' with boxing16-year-old YouTuber JoJo Siwa shared a tour of her new mansion that includes endless candy, a merch store, and a bed with her own face on itLady Gaga told Oprah she takes an antipsychotic, and without it she would 'spiral very frequently'
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- Business Insider 22:54January 10, 2020I was rejected for disability insurance because of a past mental illness. Here's how I eventually got covered.Martin Dimitrov/Getty Images As a freelancer, I don't have access to company employee benefits — including a group disability insurance policy.
I applied for a group disability insurance policy through a professional organization but got a rejection because of my past history of depression.
The disability insurance company reversed its decision after receiving letters from my psychiatrist and therapist confirming I'm healthy.
It can be difficult to qualify for disability insurance with an existing mental illness, so you need to know how to shop for a policy.
Disability insurance covers lost income if you're unable to work. Get covered today with help from Policygenius » I'll admit it: I never thought about disability insurance until a few years ago. My jobs never offered access to a plan, and I didn't consider shopping for a policy on my own.
But once I learned about the risks of disability, I realized this coverage is a must-have for anyone who can afford the monthly premiums.The odds of experiencing a long-term disability may be higher than you expect. One in four people may be out of work for a year or more due to illness, injury, or pregnancy, according to the Council for Disability Awareness. To make matters worse, 51 million working Americans don't have disability coverage other than Social Security Disability Insurance, which can be difficult to qualify for. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: 5 things about the NFL that football fans may not knowSee Also:I have 3 kids and put off writing a will for years, but Trust & Will helped me do it online in less than an hour3 surprising things you might not think to include your willAfter a health scare slashed my income, I'm happy to pay less than $20 a month for life insurance to protect my wife
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- Guardian 18:36January 10, 2020Has Instagram changed after its ban on self-harm images?A year on from banning self-harm images, we’d like to hear your thoughts on how the photo-sharing platform has improved the situation for peopleLast year Instagram announced that it would ban all graphic self-harm images as part of a series of changes made in response to the death of the British teenager Molly Russell.The photo-sharing platform made the decision after being met with a tide of public anger over the suicide of a 14-year-old girl, whose Instagram account contained distressing material about depression and suicide.A year on, we want to hear your views on how the platform has improved the situation for people. Are images of self-harm still visible via private accounts? Are certain hashtags used to unearth such images? Has the ban helped? What other areas need to be addressed? How do you feel about the support that is offered via the platform? Continue reading...
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- Huffington Post UK 18:29January 10, 2020Linda Robson Details Battle With Anxiety, Depression And Severe OCD On Loose Women Return
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- Business Insider 17:30January 10, 2020Being a psychotherapist taught me that almost everyone shares one insecurityAnchiy/Getty Images Nearly everyone shares one insecurity: they're scared of not being good enough.
To hide this fear, people may be perfectionists, or work excessively. Or, conversely, they may self-sabotage or punish themselves.
To overcome this, you need to be open to proving yourself wrong — and try keeping a list of reasons that you're good enough.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Being a therapist is sort of a surreal experience. I get paid to listen to people tell me their deepest, darkest secrets.
The clients who step into my office often reveal things they've never said out loud before — not even to their parents, best friends, or spouses. Sometimes, they've never even admitted their feelings to themselves.
Maybe they're willing to share their insecurities because they know I'm a professional. Or maybe it's because they know I'll keep their information confidential. Possibly, they're just ready to finally get some relief.
But no matter the reason they choose to share their problems, it's evident that almost everyone shares one same insecurity — the fear of not being good enough.How it manifests itself
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The funny thing about this insecurity is that we rarely recognize it in anyone but ourselves. We tend to look around and think everyone else feels confident and has everything all figured out. This is because hardly anyone discusses their own insecurities.
Instead of sharing our fear of not being good enough, we often put all our energy and effort into trying to look better than we feel. This is not easy to observe in other people, however, because everyone masks their insecurities in a unique way.
Here are some things people do to hide their deep-rooted fears of not being good enough: Perfectionism. Perfectionists try to prove that they're infallible. They secretly hope that if they don't mess up, then somehow they'll finally feel validated — or that they'll earn affirmations from others that help them feel worthy. But no matter how hard they work to keep up the appearance of being perfect, they never feel good enough.
Excessive hard work and overachievement. Some individuals think if they can just hustle hard enough, they will show everyone that they're worthwhile. Putting in long hours, trying to outdo everyone else, and insisting on crushing every goal in every area of life might be a sign that someone is trying to prove to the world that they are good enough.
Self-sabotage. Individuals who don't feel good about themselves experience a great deal of tension when things are going well. To relieve this tension, they may mess things up (e.g., subconsciously blowing their diet or going on a spending spree). In a strange way, screwing things up makes them feel better because their external behavior finally matches how they feel on the inside.
Self-punishment. Self-punishment sometimes disguises itself as self-discipline — like when someone refuses to do anything fun because they don't feel worthy of joy.
Underachievement. People who believe they aren't good enough to succeed don't bother trying to achieve much. They avoid challenging themselves because they assume they're destined to fail.
People-pleasing. Individuals who feel bad about themselves often need others to give them a stamp of approval. But no matter how much praise they get, they never quite feel good enough. And saying yes to everyone else comes at the expense of their own opinions, goals, and values. How to overcome it
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The first step for anyone who wants to overcome the fear of not being good enough is recognizing that it's a problem. You have to acknowledge that just because you think you're not good enough doesn't make it true.
But the problem is that once you believe you're not good enough, you'll keep looking for evidence that reinforces your belief. You'll assume every mistake, rejection, and failure is proof that you don't measure up.
And you'll overlook or excuse any evidence to the contrary. You might even chalk up achievement to "good luck," or you might assume that any success you have stems from other people.
So you have to be open to proving yourself wrong. Be on the lookout for evidence that you are good enough. Perhaps you have good people in your life who love you. Or maybe you make a difference at your job. Keep a running list of all the reasons you are good enough, and read it over whenever you doubt yourself.
The next steps in overcoming the fear of not being good enough are person-specific. Some individuals need to heal old childhood wounds that left them feeling as "less than." Others need to change their behavior — and start acting like a confident, worthy person — which can help them see that they are, in fact, good enough.
Often these steps can best be achieved with the support of a mental health professional. So if you're struggling to feel worthy, reach out to a therapist. A few therapy sessions might be enough to help you build the self-worth you need to finally feel good enough.
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- Huffington Post UK 10:00January 10, 202020 Ways To Be A Happier Person In 2020, According To Therapists
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- The Guardian 09:49January 10, 2020Hong Kong: nearly a third of adults report PTSD symptoms – studyResearch also finds heavy use of social media to follow socio-political events appears to increase risk on mental healthNearly one in three adults in Hong Kong reported symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder during months of often violent social unrest in the city, according to a study published in the Lancet medical journal on Friday. Related: Portraits of Hong Kong's masked protesters – in pictures Continue reading...
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- The Guardian(UK) 03:01January 10, 2020One in four young people with mental health referral 'rejected'Data shows NHS rejection rates have remained unchanged despite additional investments One in four children and young people referred to mental health services in England last year were not accepted for treatment, according to data, raising concerns that many are still failing to get vital support at an early stage.Research by the Education Policy Institute (EPI) estimated that more than 130,000 of those referred to specialist services in 2018-19 were “rejected”, among them young people who have self-harmed, suffered eating disorders and experienced abuse. Continue reading...
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- Business Insider 18:50January 9, 20204 strategies for coping with grief and your mental health at work after coming back from the holidaysGetty Images Vivian Nunez is a NYC-based writer, public speaker, and content creator. She is the founder of Too Damn Young, an online community and resource site for grieving young adults. She also hosts the podcast, "What Happened After?"
For many, especially those who have dealt with grief, the holidays can be a difficult time. And one component of that is returning to work after what many see as a time of celebration.
Create responses ahead of time to generic holiday questions, think about what level of information you want to share with others, and commit to a coping mechanism.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. While for some the holidays wrap with the drop of the ball on New Year's Eve, there's an informal — but large — community of people who navigate the first few weeks of the year differently.
Whether you're a caregiver, navigating your own mental health, or working through complex family dynamics that span year round, the holiday season can be a difficult time — and the drop of the ball doesn't stop it from being complicated. But you're prepared because those same tactics you use to brace yourself at every other time in the year can be the same ones you lean on during those first few weeks in January. You just need to remind yourself they're in your toolkit. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:10 ways to stop giving people power over you, according to a psychotherapistHow to find your next big idea and make it happen, from a CEO who's done it3 simple resolutions that'll instantly make a positive impact on your life, according to a neurosurgeonSEE ALSO: Forget setting goals — here's why you should set a one-word theme for 2020
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- Business Insider 16:45January 9, 202010 ways to stop giving people power over you, according to a psychotherapistRido/Shutterstock When someone has a negative influence over any aspect of your life, you're giving them power over you — and that can hold you back.
Instead, establish healthy boundaries with the people around you — and assume responsibility for your emotions, not theirs.
Follow your values, and realize that you're always making choices — you should be doing things for you, and not to prove yourself to other people.
Don't spend your time complaining or thinking about bad interactions.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Any time you allow someone to have a negative influence over the way you think, feel, or behave, you give them power over you.
Sometimes it's subtle. Maybe you change the way you act around certain people because you want to please them, but it doesn't impact your life too much.
Or maybe it's major. Perhaps you allow a loved one's harsh criticism to take a serious toll on your well-being.
Either way, giving away your personal power drains you of the mental strength you need to be your best. Here are 10 ways to stop giving people power over you.1. Establish healthy boundaries
Whether you have a coworker who wastes your time venting about how much she dislikes her job, or a friend who always asks to borrow money, some people will take your time, money, and space if you allow them to do so. It's important to set healthy boundaries for yourself.
Say no, speak up, and ask for what you need. When people violate your boundaries, follow through with clear consequences.
2. Take responsibility for your emotions
Don't blame anyone else for making you feel guilty or making you feel bad about yourself. Take full responsibility for how you feel.
If someone is affecting your emotions in an unhelpful manner, take positive action. Either change the situation, or change how you respond to the situation. Perhaps you decide to walk away and enter a new environment. Or, maybe you decide to take a few deep breaths, practice using some positive self-talk and continue to engage in a difficult conversation.
3. Let other people be responsible for their emotions
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On another note, don't take on responsibility for other people's emotions. You can't make everyone happy, and you can't make anyone mad.
While it's important to be cognizant of how your actions affect others, it's not up to you to manage how other people feel.
See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:The secret to hiring and managing top talent, according to the CEO of a virtual assistant company who grew her business to over 80 assistants and 100 clients in just 2 yearsLooking at 2020: 3 lessons leaders can learn from the fall of former WeWork CEO Adam Neumann, according to a millennial success coach3 simple resolutions that'll instantly make a positive impact on your life, according to a neurosurgeonSEE ALSO: How to stay mentally strong when you're going through a breakup
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- Business Insider 17:46January 8, 2020'We didn't ask for a meditation app, we want to be able to pay our rent': Starbucks is offering new mental health benefits, but employees are demanding different kinds of supportScott Olson/Getty Images Starbucks is rolling out new mental health benefits for employees, including free subscriptions for the mindfulness app Headspace.
However, some workers are demanding more support from Starbucks, with some voicing concerns regarding understaffed locations.
"I think that Starbucks is taking the steps to make sure partners' mental health is being addressed and cared for," one Starbucks employee — or "partner," as the chain calls workers — told Business Insider. "However, I feel like this is just scratching the surface to fix the real issue."
Thousands of people have signed a petition calling for Starbucks to address its "lack of labor" in recent weeks, with multiple Starbucks employees telling Business Insider their locations have cut back on staffing since late November.
"Our store managers make great efforts each week to balance the needs of our business, their stores, and the diverse needs of our partners against the normal seasonality we see throughout the year as customers shift their behaviors and purchases," Starbucks representative Reggie Borges said.
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Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. As Starbucks offers new mental health benefits for employees, some workers are seeking support of a different kind.
On Monday, the coffee giant announced that it was offering free subscriptions for the mindfulness app Headspace. The new benefit continues Starbucks' mental health push, which started last fall and has included launching a Mental Health Matters online forum, partnering with organizations focused on mental health, and training thousands of store leaders on mental well-being.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: At its peak, Forever 21 made $4.4 billion in revenue. Here's what led to the brand's downfall and bankruptcy.See Also:Hooters is adding vegetarian plant-based wings to the menu as the 'breastaurant' chain attempts to win over millennials and womenPier 1 plans to close 450 stores and fire hundreds of employees as the company struggles to stay afloat12 comically large items you can buy at CostcoSEE ALSO: Apply here to attend IGNITION: Retail, an event focused on the future of retail, in New York City on January 14.
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- Guardian 14:28January 8, 2020'Everyone else was just a bit player': my night out with Elizabeth Wurtzel | Suzanne MooreThe Prozac Nation author was irresistible and impossible, but her writing courageously opened up the conversation about mental healthRead Guardian articles by Elizabeth WurtzelSometimes when a woman says “I am impossible”, it’s just classic, sappy, feminine self-deprecation. It’s like saying, “Oh, this old thing?” when someone compliments you on a frock you have spent a long time thinking about and even more time saving for. Sometimes, though, when a woman says “I am impossible,” you should believe her.Elizabeth Wurtzel was impossible. I believed her. I briefly experienced her being so. She came to London to promote Prozac Nation, the memoir that would make her famous, the best book she wrote, which was about the “United States of Depression”. She demanded to meet certain people: writers including Martin Amis, Julie Burchill and Will Self were on her list. She also wanted sex and drugs. She picked at her food in a restaurant in Soho that was somehow not good enough. A lot of things were not good enough for her. We ended up in the Groucho Club, where she draped herself over various men, magazine editors. Huge, kohled eyes; long blond hair; a tiny vest top. She already had an FTW (Fuck the World) tat. She was both irresistible and very annoying and she knew both these things about herself. Continue reading...
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- Business Insider 01:16January 8, 2020Lady Gaga told Oprah she takes an antipsychotic, and without it she would 'spiral very frequently'Jordan Strauss/Invision/AP Lady Gaga appeared on Oprah's "2020 Vision: Your Life in Focus" tour Saturday, when she discussed her battle with fibromyalgia and post-traumatic stress disorder after multiple sexual assaults.
The award-winning singer and actress said taking an antipsychotic medication "helped me tremendously" and that she would "spiral very frequently" without it.
Antipsychotic medications are commonly used to treat bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, but can also be used to treat fibromyalgia, which is characterized by widespread pain, fatigue, and cognitive difficulties that can be caused by trauma and stress.
Visit Insider's homepage for more. Lady Gaga appeared on Oprah Winfrey's 2020 Vision: Your Life in Focus tour on Saturday in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, where she discussed her battle with fibromyalgia and post-traumatic stress disorder after multiple sexual assaults when she was 19.
She also talked about how taking medication has served a huge role in helping her cope in her day-to-day life, according to Teen Vogue.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: People are still debating the pink or grey sneaker, 2 years after it went viral. Here's the real color explained.See Also:A UK lawmaker just came out as pansexual. Here's what that means.Hailey Baldwin Bieber shared an emotional Instagram post about comparison and online expectations, saying 'it hurts to be torn apart on the internet'Ricki Lake revealed her shaved head on Instagram, saying she's been suffering from hair loss for nearly 30 years
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- Business Insider 21:30January 7, 2020Elizabeth Wurtzel, author of 'Prozac Nation,' has died at 52Catherine McGann/Contributor/Getty Images Elizabeth Wurtzel, author of groundbreaking memoirs on addiction and mental health, has died of breast cancer complications. She was 52 years old.
Her first book "Prozac Nation" was published in 1994 and detailed her personal struggle with depression and the titular medication. It became a New York Times best-seller.
Wurtzel's work was controversial, but helped revolutionize the memoir genre and make room for non-celebrities to share personal stories and raise awareness of mental health issues.
Celebrities and fans are mourning her loss, and honoring the impact she made on society and their personal lives.
Visit Insider's homepage for more. Author of the groundbreaking memoir "Prozac Nation" Elizabeth Wurtzel died Thursday at age 52 of complications related to breast cancer.
Her work was a catalyst for inspiring new generations of memoirists, particularly those writing about mental health and addiction, according to the Washington Post.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:Kate Hudson said she put on 10 pounds over the holidays but is feeling motivated to lose the weightThe keto diet is the worst diet for healthy eating, according to new rankingsThe Mediterranean diet is named the best diet for 2020, and keto remains one of the worst
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- Business Insider 17:00January 7, 2020There's a mental health crisis on campus. Here are 4 ways colleges can fix it, according to a psychology professor.Shutterstock
Marty Swanbrow Becker is an associate professor at Florida State University.
As stigma against seeking mental health support has gone down on campus, counseling centers are struggling to meet demand — and students' mental health distress has risen nationally.
To address this, colleges should empower students through resources like online portals, as well as offer stress management resources.
They should proactively take preventive measures, and create wellness campaigns.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. When college students seek help for a mental health issue on campus — something they are doing more often — the place they usually go is the college counseling center.
But while the stigma of seeking mental health support has gone down, it has created a new problem: College counseling centers are now struggling to meet the increased demand.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:Richard Branson on the 'million-dollar lesson they don't teach in business school' — and 12 other secrets from highly successful people'We are barreling toward a caste system, sequestering kids by income,' says NYU professor Scott Galloway. Here's how he thinks we can fix it.Bill Gates and Jeff Bezos wash the dishes at home — and research suggests the benefits might stretch beyond clean platesSEE ALSO: The best way to ditch bad habits, according to science
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- Business Insider 18:03January 5, 2020Millennials are having kids later than any other generation, and it might be putting mothers at greater risk of depression. Here's what experts say every mother should know about the potential risks.Ariel Skelley/Getty Images More 30-something women are having babies than ever before.
However, fertility declines with age, making it more difficult to get pregnant and increasing the risk of medical complications.
Getting pregnant at an older age may also increase mental health risks, but experts are unsure about the exact relationship between the two.
There are also benefits to having a baby later in life, like being more financially and emotionally prepared.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. The US birthrate is the lowest it's been in 32 years — and that's not the only change in birthing patterns happening right now.
For the first time, more 30-something women are having babies than women in their 20s, a difference that grew in 2018, according to a 2019 report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: The true story behind the name 'Black Friday' is much darker than you may have thoughtSee Also:There are 2 types of American millennials, says an expert who studies the generation — and the difference between them is not based on their ageCoachella's 2020 lineup is here. These 15 unbelievable facts show just how much it'll cost you to see it, from $430 tickets to $9,500 campsitesI spent 4 days in a midsize city that's been called the best place for millennials to live in the US, and I found a major downside of living thereSEE ALSO: 7 ways millennials are changing marriage, from signing prenups to staying together longer than past generations
DON'T MISS: The US birthrate is the lowest it's been in 32 years, and it's partly because millennials can't afford having kids
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- Business Insider 13:17January 5, 2020'Divorce Day' is coming up — here's why so many marriages fall apart on the fateful day and how you can get through itSeb Oliver / Getty Images Monday, January 6 has been dubbed "Divorce Day."
It's because Google search and family lawyers see a surge of divorce inquiries on the first working Monday back of the year.
Breakup coach Cherlyn Chong said there are several reasons to explain this. For one, people may just want to give their partner one last happy Christmas and New Year's Eve before saying goodbye.
The holiday period can also be very stressful, which exacerbates many of the flaws already apparent in a marriage.
Even if you're past the point of resolution, divorce doesn't have to be the worst thing in the world. "It just means that you're giving yourself the chance to be happier, and you shouldn't fault yourself for that," Chong said.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. The first Monday of the year when people drag themselves back to work isn't just bad because the realities of New Year's resolutions to rid our bodies of cheese and wine have set in. It's also earned the name "Divorce Day," as family lawyers have noticed a particularly high number of people inquiring about leaving their partners that flood in.
This year, while "Dating Sunday," the best day to be on dating apps, is on January 5, "Divorce Day" lands on January 6.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Most maps of Louisiana aren't entirely right. Here's what the state really looks like.See Also:A timeline of Jake Paul and Tana Mongeau's whirlwind open marriage from beginning to end, which Tana said went downhill after the wedding night5 unusual resolutions to try this New Year that you might actually be able to stick toTana Mongeau opens up about her marriage to Jake Paul: 'The wedding night was just hell'
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- Business Insider 23:35January 4, 2020Hailey Baldwin Bieber shared an emotional Instagram post about comparison and online expectations, saying 'it hurts to be torn apart on the internet'Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Hailey Bieber (neé Baldwin) shared an emotional Instagram post on Friday, opening up about her thoughts on the damaging effects of social media.
Bieber wrote: "The reason I'm even sharing this, is because Instagram, Twitter etc is SUCH a breeding ground for cruelty towards each other, and because people don't take the time to connect with each other on an honest level before they resort to hatred."
"It hurts to be compared to other human beings every single day, it hurts for people to jump to conclusions and make assumptions," she wrote.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Hailey Bieber (neé Baldwin) recently opened up about the damaging effects of social media and hateful words online, as well as the pressure of living a public life in the digital age.
In an Instagram post, Bieber shared on Friday, which showed a rare photo not featuring herself or her musician husband, she started by writing about her love for connecting with others.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: 5 things about the NFL that football fans may not knowSee Also:Justin Bieber released his first solo single in more than 3 years, and the colorful 'Yummy' music video might make you dizzy15 alcohol brands you didn't realize were owned by celebrities27 celebrities who have ditched makeup in 2019
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- Guardian 10:00January 3, 2020'I was half-insane with anxiety': how I wrote myself into a breakdownAfter exhausting himself with work, author Benjamin Myers was sent over a literal edge and into the River Derwent. He recalls his recovery and hunt for a cureLast summer, in the midst of promotional chaos surrounding my new novel The Offing, I cancelled my own London book launch and instead drove to the Chatsworth estate in Derbyshire, a place I had never previously visited, and jumped in the river right in front of the very big house. It was not entirely an act of self-destruction or a plea for help. (No one knew I was there, the river was only five feet deep and I’m no Virginia Woolf.) It simply seemed like a more obvious thing to do than trying to persuade members of the public to buy my book, and an act more broadly in keeping with the spirit of the novel in question and my writing life in general.Out in the middle of the bracing River Derwent, with one foot hovering over a deeper, much darker, metaphorical void, I reached beneath the first rock I came to and pulled out a large crayfish. I held the creature aloft, as if it were a totem or trophy. Lobster features significantly in The Offing and here was its freshwater cousin, so it must mean something, I thought. Something Very Important. Continue reading...
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- Huffington Post UK 10:00January 3, 2020A Parents' Guide To Free Mental Health Support For Your Kids
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- The Guardian(UK) 03:01January 3, 2020Children refused NHS mental health care for not being unwell enoughGPs warn more children need help as research finds most trusts in England restrict referralsChildren with mental health problems must be severely unwell before they can get help at NHS trusts across England, an investigation has found.Data obtained via freedom of information requests shows a third of mental health trusts only accept patients with “severe” or “significant” conditions for specialist child and adolescent mental health services. Continue reading...
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- Huffington Post UK 03:01January 3, 2020FA Cup Third Round Fixtures Delayed To Promote Better Mental Health Among Football Fans
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- Business Insider 21:50January 2, 2020Ricki Lake revealed her shaved head on Instagram, saying she's been suffering from hair loss for nearly 30 yearsREUTERS/Mick Tsikas Actress and talk-show host Ricki Lake revealed on Instagram she's been struggling with health-related hair loss for more than 30 years.
Lake described the issue as debilitating, depressing, and lonely, even making her feel suicidal at times. She said she shared her story, and debuted a newly-shaved head, to help others who may be struggling.
Hair loss can be caused by a variety of issues ranging from minor to severe. Lake believes it was in part due to stress, hormones, and yo-yo dieting.
Visit Insider's homepage for more. Actress and talk-show host Ricki Lake recently debuted a new hairstyle on Instagram while sharing her decades-long silent struggle with hair loss.
She wrote that she had suffered problems with hair loss for most of her adult life, more than 30 years, and that the experience had been "debilitating, embarrassing, painful, scary, depressing, lonely, all the things," and even contributed to Lake having suicidal thoughts at times. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:Yes, you can sleep with a tampon in — here's what you need to know about the risks of Toxic Shock SyndromeA C-section is often quicker than a natural birth, but doctors only recommend it under certain circumstancesYes, tampons will expire but it's how you store them that matters most
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- The Guardian(UK) 09:00January 2, 2020Four in 10 GPs suggest seeking private care for mentally ill childrenSurvey finds 43% of doctors tell parents that NHS services are too overwhelmed to helpFour in 10 GPs are advising parents of children with mental health problems to pay for private care because NHS services are too overwhelmed to help.In a survey, 43% of UK family doctors said they told parents whose children were struggling with anxiety, depression, self-harm or eating disorders to seek treatment privately if they could afford it because NHS care is heavily rationed and involves delays of up to 18 months. Continue reading...
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- Business Insider 21:15December 30, 201915 better things you could be doing after work instead of watching TV — if you want to be happierBrunoRosa/Shutterstock It's common for people to unwind after work with more screen time. However, studies have proven that this behavior can often lead to unhappiness, headache, and a reduced quality of sleep. Engaging in activities such as reading, socializing, or exercising — instead of watching television — will have a positive effect on your mental state.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. For the longest time, I would come home from work and immediately pop on the TV. It was mindless — after a day of meetings, intensive heads-down work, and never-ending email chains, the only thing I thought I wanted to do was watch five episodes of some sitcom I'd seen hundreds of times before.
But then last year, I realized I was always ending the day feeling exhausted, or worse with a headache. In addition, I wasn't sleeping well. So, I tried an experiment: Instead of turning on the TV in my free time, I'd pick up a book.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:7 toxic behaviors of people with low emotional intelligenceYou might want to think twice before writing 'thank you' at the end of a business email4 New Year's resolutions that will help you grow both personally and professionallySEE ALSO: Why we should all spend more time alone
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- Business Insider 19:27December 30, 20195 unusual resolutions to try this New Year that you might actually be able to stick toXinhua News Agency / Getty Images It's almost the end of 2019, and the end of the year always brings about thoughts of how we can make changes in the next one.
But New Year's resolutions don't always have to be about pain and gain.
If getting up at the crack of dawn or starting a new restrictive diet isn't for you, there are still some great ways to make improvements to your life in 2020.
Take a look at this list of five unusual resolutions if you want to try something new and challenge yourself come January.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. 1. Set up your side hustle
Some people like to set resolutions that will get them stepping out of their comfort zones. One way to try this is by setting up the company you always dreamed of founding.
But for many, having the idea and motivation is the easy part. The difficulties come with working out how to manage finances and taxes.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: How Jay-Z and Diddy used their fame to make millions off of 'cheap grapes'See Also:Tana Mongeau said finding out about her husband Jake Paul meeting up with his ex Erika Costell 'killed' herAn expert recaps the biggest trends from Instagram's Goliath last decade, and what to expect in 2020Stylists and designers reveal the 11 trends we'll be seeing everywhere in 2020
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- Business Insider 18:00December 30, 20197 myths about 'multiple personalities' you need to stop believingFox 2000 Pictures Dissociative identity disorder, previously known as "multiple personality disorder," is a popular mental health condition to depict on TV and in film, but its media representation tends to be off-base.
The condition may affect up to 1.5% of the population and isn't necessarily obvious to outside observers, or even clinicians.
DID is a trauma-based disorder, and people with it are more likely to be victims of violent crime than perpetrators.
Here are the other myths about DID you need to stop believing now.
Visit Insider's homepage for more. "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde." "Fight Club." "Shutter Island." If you're a person who enjoy books, TV, or movies, you've probably come across some depiction of dissociative identity disorder, or perhaps heard of the diagnosis by its old name, "multiple personality disorder."
But while media representation of DID may lead you to think of people with "multiple personalities" as unstable and potentially violent, with distinct personas that they shift between, the truth is, much of that is exaggerated or just plain false. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: How Jay-Z and Diddy used their fame to make millions off of 'cheap grapes'See Also:15 of the best and 15 of the worst holiday movies of all timeI never let my daughter sit on Santa's lap. Now she's old enough to tell me that I made the right choice.We tried every single appetizer at Applebee's, and ranked them from worst to best
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- Business Insider 15:11December 30, 2019Tana Mongeau said finding out about her husband Jake Paul meeting up with his ex Erika Costell 'killed' herHollywood To You/Star Max / Getty Images Tana Mongeau spoke about her open marriage to fellow YouTuber Jake Paul in a raw new video.
In the video which she titled "the truth about everything," Mongeau said finding out that Paul had met up with his ex Erika Costell a month after their wedding left her feeling "broken."
She also said it was difficult when Paul recently released a new song about another ex-girlfriend Alissa Violet and posted an old photo of them kissing on his Instagram.
But she said they are still going strong, despite their "psycho busy lives" and "trying to fit each other in" getting harder and harder.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. YouTuber Tana Mongeau spoke candidly about her open marriage with Jake Paul and other struggles in a raw new video, which she titled "the truth about everything."
She said finding out that Paul had met up with his ex Erika Costell a month after their wedding left her feeling "broken."See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Here's how to escape a flooding vehicleSee Also:You can stay in a floating villa in Australia complete with a deck over the seaYou can watch the northern lights and polar bears from your table at this remote Canadian dinerThe life and controversies of YouTuber Trisha Paytas, from public feuds and breakups to identifying as 'a chicken nugget'
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