- Business Insider 20:25November 21, 2019A couple got free IVF through a ‘Win a Baby’ radio contest after facing cancer and infertility -- and then had a babyWhen Anthony Rivera was diagnosed with testicular cancer, he and his wife learned that they could only have children through in vitro fertilization, an expensive procedure the Florida couple couldn't afford.
On a whim, in 2017, they entered a "Win a Baby" contest hosted by a radio station, the prize being one round of IVF treatments — and the couple won.
The Riveras gave birth to a baby boy in August.
The cost of one round of IVF can exceed $8,000, putting it financially out of reach for many people.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories When a radio station hosts a contest, entrants can usually expect to win a pair of tickets to a concert or a free cruise, perhaps. For one lucky couple, it meant fulfilling their dream of having a baby.
When Anthony Rivera was diagnosed with testicular cancer, he and his wife, Krista, also got another piece of devastating news: The Cape Coral, Florida couple would only be able to have children through in vitro fertilization, an expensive procedure they couldn't afford, FOX 4 reported. On a whim, in 2017, the husband and wife entered a contest — aptly called the "Win a Baby" contest — through radio station B103.9.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:I have a PhD in immunology and this is how I keep my daughter from getting sick during the winterA vegan mom said she was ‘in tears wanting to eat a steak or hamburger’ while pregnant, and her craving isn’t unusualA trans dad underwent $30,000 worth of fertility treatments to have a baby. He says his insurance company refused to pay.
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- Business Insider 23:31November 19, 2019These parents threw a Costco-themed first birthday party for their son and named him Employee of the YearCourtesy of Josie Gonzalez Sebastian and Josie Gonzalez are huge Costco fans.
They threw a Costco-themed first birthday party for their son, Mason.
Guests wore red aprons and hairnets, and the food was served as Costco samples on red trays.
One-year-old Mason was named Employee of the Year.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. For some, Costco is just a store. For Sebastian and Josie Gonzalez and their two kids, it's a way of life.
"Everywhere you look in our home you'll find something from Costco," Josie told Insider in an email. "Dog food, baby formula, diapers, cleaning products, furniture, decor, shampoo and conditioner, toys … I could go on and on."
So when it came time to plan their son Mason's first birthday party, they cycled through a few different themes before settling on the one that felt right — a tribute to their favorite store.Josie and Sebastian Gonzalez are avid Costco fans.
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They each make weekly trips to the store. Sebastian often takes their two children, Madison and Mason, shopping with him on Saturdays, and Josie stocks up on household essentials on Mondays.
For their son Mason's first birthday, Sebastian came up with the idea to throw a Costco-themed bash.
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"Everyone we know is aware of my husband's obsession with Costco," Josie Gonzalez told Insider. "He's a financial planner, so he's obviously all about making smart financial decisions. Our Costco membership is most certainly a smart financial decision."
They hosted the party at their home in Canton, Massachusetts.
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"There was plenty of laughter every time someone walked in the house," Gonzalez said.
See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:Italy now requires car seat alarms to prevent hot-car deaths in children, and the US may follow suitIt's not just Rock n' Plays — any inclined sleep product could put a baby's life at riskI had 4 miscarriages, saw 10 specialists, and nearly gave up on being a mother
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- Business Insider 18:45November 19, 2019A trans dad underwent $30,000 worth of fertility treatments to have a baby. He says his insurance company refused to pay.Pregnantish Seth is a transgender man who underwent fertilization treatments in order to conceive a child with his wife.
Though he got a new job to ensure his fertility treatments would be covered by his insurance, the company refused to pay for the treatments.
Seth appeared on an episode of Pregnantish, a new podcast hosted by Andrea Syrtash that features people who have had "unconventional paths to parenthood," to talk about his experience.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Like many young men looking to start families with their partners, Seth wanted to have biological children with his wife. Because he's transgender, he planned on undergoing in vitro fertilization — the process of extracting his eggs so they could be fertilized outside the body — with his wife carrying the baby to term.
But IVF is not a cheap procedure, with one round of medications averaging about $20,000. Seth took a job that came with insurance that covered the procedure, but when it came time to foot the bill, he was denied coverage — costing him and his wife about $30,000, a total they are still working to pay off today.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:A model didn't realize she was pregnant until she was giving birth, but 'cryptic pregnancies' happen more often than you might thinkA vegan mom said she was ‘in tears wanting to eat a steak or hamburger’ while pregnant, and her craving isn’t unusualI have a PhD in immunology and this is how I keep my daughter from getting sick during the winter
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- Business Insider 16:30November 19, 2019Adam Grant says that focusing on kindness rather than achievements can lead to more caring and successful childrenHoxton/Sam Edwards/Getty Images According to Wharton psychologist Adam Grant and spouse Allison Sweet Grant, parents say having caring children is a priority, but their children say parents value happiness and achievement over caring.
Children learn from what adults pay attention to, and too often parents focus more on success. But paying attention to kindness can lead to success down the road, and result in more caring kids.
Parents should praise kindness before success, and give their children opportunities to practice it. They should also own up to times when they were unkind and use it as a lesson.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. There's no shortage of advice for raising successful children. But in trying to play the right role for our kids to help ensure their success, are we creating unintended, undesirable consequences?
In the December 2019 issue of The Atlantic, Wharton celebrity psychologist Adam Grant (and his spouse, Allison Sweet Grant) illuminate the side effect of our focus on success. According to the duo, when parents are surveyed, over 90% of them say that having a child grow up to be caring is a top priority. Yet, as a Harvard report shows, when you ask the children of those parents, 81% say their parents value achievement and happiness over caring.
The words aren't matching the pictures. As the Grants point out, "Kids learn what's important to adults not by listening to what we say, but by noticing what gets our attention."
We want our kids to be successful and caring, but focus too much on the first and create a dearth of the second. Research supports the impact. A University of Michigan study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Review showed that college students showed a dramatic drop in exhibiting kindness and empathy over a 30-year period (from 1979 to 2009).
The truth is that success and kindness aren't mutually exclusive pursuits. In fact, focusing on the latter generates the former. The Grants say that "quite a bit of evidence suggests that children who help others end up achieving more than those who don't," and that includes in the workplace. A study by the Center for Creative Leadership shows that empathy is a critical driver of performance and overall effectiveness for a leader.
So you can have your cake and eat it, too. You can enable your child's success by over-investing in teaching kindness. Do so by teaching it as a core value. Here's the best of the Grant's advice for doing this along with my own counsel as a parent who, along with my wife, holds kindness as the No. 1 most important value.1. Praise kindness first, success second
Remember, your children noticing what you notice is more powerful than them hearing what you say. So keep count. I do. Meaning, I keep a little mental counter and try to compliment my daughter for her kindness three times for every time I'd compliment her about an achievement. My wife and I also ask our daughter about kindness shown during her day, not just about how she did on a test or some other standard success metric.
Your attention to kindness and success can work in tandem as well. When you're praising your child for an achievement, note how it was achieved. If it was done so with kindness in tow, double up on the praise.
2. Give them opportunities to practice the choice of kindness
As the Grants indicate, kindness is a choice, not a chore. My wife and I give our daughter opportunities to choose kindness. We encourage her to show kindness each day and to engage in volunteer activities designed to show it. We pay attention to who she spends her time with, trying our best to encourage more time spent with kids who are imbued with a kind spirit.
It's sometimes the simplest things that ingrain kindness as a value and have a multiplying effect. For example, we mentioned once to our daughter she should give her restaurant "doggie bag" of food to a homeless person we passed on the street on the way to the car. One time — and now our daughter has taken it up as a habit, on her own.
3. Harp on the cost of the opposite
I'm not afraid to admit my wife and I are tough when we spot unkind behavior. We won't let our daughter get away with it without noting the impact the unkindness is having on someone else. This includes very gently talking about how she feels when someone is unkind to her. It's a teachable moment: "I know it stinks to feel this way, and I hate that for you. Now you'd never want anyone else to feel this way, right?"
To be fair, this should include harping on yourself when you display a lack of kindness, present or past. Sharing stories of when you regret not being kind, or when others weren't kind to you and the impact it had, are powerful ways to show you're in it together with your child. When you're consistent about the importance of showing kindness and just as persistent in pointing out the impact for the absence thereof, you help form habits. And remember, these kindness habits lead to success. So if you want your child to be entrepreneurial or professionally successful, focus on kindness and you'll get success right along with it.
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- Business Insider 22:50November 18, 20197 teachers at a Kansas elementary school were pregnant at the same time, and the babies just met for an adorable photoCourtesy of Goddard Public Schools Seven out of 15 teachers at Oak Street Elementary in Kansas have given birth to eight babies in eight months.
Back in March, the school made headlines when it announced the teachers were all pregnant at the same time.
The mothers brought all eight of the babies together for a group photo in the hallway of Oak Street Elementary.
Now, the mothers are swapping advice, tips, and even baby clothes.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. An elementary school in Kansas is making headlines again after half of its teachers gave birth in a span of eight months.
In March, Oak Street Elementary announced that seven out of the school's 15 teachers were pregnant. One of the women was even expecting twins. Through October, the teachers gave birth one by one, and in November the school announced that the mothers had welcomed a total of eight healthy babies.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Most maps of Louisiana aren't entirely right. Here's what the state really looks like.See Also:It's not just Rock n' Plays — any inclined sleep product could put a baby's life at riskA stream along the South Korean border turned red after the government slaughtered thousands of pigs infected with swine feverAmerica’s most notorious white nationalist says he knew Stephen Miller ‘quite well’ while they were members of a Duke University conservative club
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- Business Insider 19:30November 18, 2019A vegan mom said she was ‘in tears wanting to eat a steak or hamburger’ while pregnant, and her craving isn’t unusualGetty Images It's not unusual for vegans and vegetarians to experience overwhelming cravings for meat during pregnancy and after childbirth, experts say.
These cravings could be a sign that the body is deficient in certain nutrients — like B12 and iron — and they shouldn't go ignored.
While eating meat and other animal products is one solution, there may also be other ways to round out a vegan diet during pregnancy and after childbirth by eating beans, lentils, and soybeans, which are also rich in iron.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. During her second pregnancy, MacKenzie Passegger expected odd food cravings like peanut butter and pickles. But she wasn't prepared for her unrelenting desire for a nice, juicy piece of meat. Passegger had been a vegetarian since childhood, and had recently turned vegan. She chose the lifestyle out of her concern for animals and how meat production negatively impacts the environment.
She hadn't eaten a single animal product in seven months. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A 45-year-long study discovered trends in successful hyper-intelligent childrenSee Also:A pit bull attacked and killed a 4-year-old boy, reigniting debate over whether the breed is inherently violentI have a PhD in immunology and this is how I keep my daughter from getting sick during the winterA model didn't realize she was pregnant until she was giving birth, but 'cryptic pregnancies' happen more often than you might think
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- Huffington Post UK 11:16November 18, 2019The Funniest Tweets From Parents This Week
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- Guardian 09:00November 18, 2019Foetus 18 Weeks: the greatest photograph of the 20th century?In the 1950s, photojournalist Lennart Nilsson set out to capture the earliest stages of existence. His foetus images seized the public imagination – and sparked a controversy that has raged ever sinceIn April 1965, Life magazine put a photograph called Foetus 18 Weeks on its cover and caused a sensation. The issue was a spectacular success, the fastest-selling copy in Life’s entire history. In full colour and crystal clear detail, the picture showed a foetus in its amniotic sac, with its umbilical cord winding off to the placenta. The unborn child, floating in a seemingly cosmic backdrop, appears vulnerable yet serene. Its eyes are closed and its tiny, perfectly formed fists are clutched to its chest.Capturing that most universal of subjects, our own creation, Foetus 18 Weeks was one of the 20th century’s great photographs, as emotive as it was technically impressive, even by today’s standards. And its impact was enormous, growing into something its creator struggled to control, as the image was hijacked by the fledgling anti-abortion movement. Continue reading...
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- Business Insider 01:12November 16, 2019When infants can get the flu shotphadungsak sawasdee/ Shutterstock Infants can get their first flu shot once they're at least 6 months old.
Children between 6 months to 8 years old who are getting their first flu vaccine will need two injections spaced at least four weeks apart.
There are no vaccine products approved for infants younger than 6 months, which means parents must take extra care to protect their infants from infection. This article was reviewed by Tania Elliott, MD, who specializes in infectious diseases related to allergies and immunology for internal medicine at NYU Langone Health.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Since 2010, an estimated 7,000 to 26,000 children under 5 years old have been hospitalized for the flu in the US, alone.
"Infants are proven more likely to be hospitalized or die from influenza illness, so all infants eligible for the vaccine should receive it," says Charisma Garcia, MD, a pediatrician with the Center for Children and Women at Texas Children's Health Plan.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A podiatrist explains heel spurs, the medical condition Trump said earned him a medical deferment from VietnamSee Also:The flu vaccine is not 100% effective but you should still get it every yearWhy flu season spikes in the fall and winterWhat you should eat and drink to get over the flu, according to doctors
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- Business Insider 23:00November 15, 2019I signed up for $1 million of life insurance before I ever had kids, and I'd tell any 20-something to do the sameLayland Masuda/Getty Images Life insurance costs typically rise with age, so locking in a policy now will get you the lowest possible rate.
Even if you don't have dependents today, signing up for life insurance early can save you hundreds of dollars per year on premiums compared to waiting.
You can always cancel an unneeded policy, but you can't go back in time and sign up with lower rates.
Policygenius can help you compare life insurance policies to find the right coverage for you, at the right price » If you are single without kids, life insurance is probably the farthest thing from your mind. While I briefly looked at life insurance when I was 22, I didn't get serious about it until about a half-decade later, when I bought $1 million in life insurance coverage before I had my children.
That delay likely cost me a little bit every single month for 30 years.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:7 times you're better off spending than savingA 53-year-old worth $3.4 million is sticking with 2 strategies to keeping building his wealthWho has the best cheap car insurance in Virginia?
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- Business Insider 22:32November 15, 2019An expert in fraternity hazing deaths says coddling parents are part of the problemSteve Helber/AP Five young men have died in incidents that appear to be connected to fraternities at colleges across the country so far this fall.
Hank Nuwer, a journalist who has been compiling a database on fraternity deaths for decades, believes over-indulgent parents are partly to blame for a recent uptick in dangerous behavior.
"Parents want to show their love by giving everything — everything but old-fashioned lessons in self-restraint," he told Insider.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Hank Nuwer, a journalism professor at Franklin College, has kept a database on fraternity-related deaths dating back to the 1800s.
It shows a pattern of alcohol becoming a problem at fraternities in the 1960s and 1970s, when states started raising the drinking age to 21.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:There have been 5 fraternity deaths this school year alone, but little is being done to curb dangerous frat behaviorThe New Zealand man accused of murdering backpacker Grace Millane after a Tinder date said he arranged another date while she lay dead next to himItaly now requires car seat alarms to prevent hot-car deaths in children, and the US may follow suit
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- Business Insider 21:06November 15, 2019The most successful kids have parents who do these 9 things, according to scienceMoMo Productions/Getty Images Parents want to set their kids up for success. Some of that comes in the form of honesty, whether it's talking about the realities of professional life or letting them fail.
Creating routines, setting firm limits on screentime, and trying to eat dinner as a family can also pay off down the road.
There are also real positive effects associated with reading to kids and traveling with them.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Much has been written about the attributes of high-achieving adults, and what makes them different from everyone else. But if you're a parent, a more compelling question may be: "What can I do to make sure my kids succeed in life?" Here's what researchers say.1. Don't tell them they can be anything they want.
According a survey of 400 teenagers, conducted by market research agency C+R Research, young Americans aren't interested in doing the work that will need to be done in the years to come. Instead, they aspire to be musicians, athletes, or video game designers, even though these kinds of jobs only comprise 1% of American occupations. In reality, jobs in healthcare or in construction trades will be golden in future decades. Why not steer them into well-paying professions in which there will be a huge shortage of workers?
2. Eat dinner as a family.
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According to a nonprofit organization operating out of Harvard University, kids who eat with their families roughly five days a week exhibit lower levels of substance abuse, teen pregnancy, obesity, and depression. They also have higher grade-point averages, better vocabularies, and more self-esteem.
3. Enforce no-screen time.
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Researchers have found that the brains of little kids can be permanently altered when they spend too much time using tablets and smartphones. Specifically, the development of certain abilities is impeded, including focus and attention, vocabulary, and social skills. In fact, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says children younger than 18 months should have no screen time at all, other than video-chatting. For kids ages two to five, it recommends limiting screen time to one hour a day. For older kids, it's a matter of making sure media doesn't take the place of adequate sleep, exercise, and social interaction. The AAP also says parents should make the dinner table, the car, and bedrooms media-free zones.
See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:Here's how working in the sex industry prepared me to be a wife and motherIt's time to kick your adult children off of your family phone plan — here's how to do it rightVirtual kitchens are poised to disrupt the restaurant industry — and VCs say it's a smart investmentSEE ALSO: I offered to come back from maternity leave 3 days after I gave birth — and my employer said it wasn’t fast enough
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- Business Insider 18:09November 15, 20197 things to do today if you want to be a stay-at-home parentHero Images/Getty It takes a lot of planning to switch from a two-income household to a one-income household, but there are several steps you can take today to get financially prepared.
In addition to talking to your partner about money, paying down debts, tracking expenses, and getting quotes for what childcare could cost are all good ideas to get started.
Read more personal finance coverage. Being a stay-at-home parent isn't easy. Even if you're great with money, you may still need to do some extra planning and work before your family is truly ready to live on one income.
There's a lot to consider financially in this situation, from the costs of losing one salary to the costs of childcare. You and your partner will need to have some frank money conversations before you get too far into the process, and decide on your goals and priorities.
If being a stay-at-home parent is your future plans, start doing these seven things today to make sure your family is ready to go one-income when the time is right. 1. Start talking to your partner about money
If you're going to go from two incomes to one, you and your partner will have to be on the same page about all of your finances.
Even though you'll only have one income, it will take two people to make sure that everything goes smoothly. Start by having a conversation about your money, talking about how you'd like to live and the changes you'll have to make to support your new lifestyle.
It might be a good idea to sit down with your partner and make a spreadsheet, as one financial planner suggests. Take an evening to go through all of your income, savings, expenses, and debt to make sure that you'll be ready to make this jump, and to make sure that you're both feeling the same way about it.
2. Track your expenses
To know how much you'll need to earn, where you'll need to cut back, and how much you'll need to save in your emergency fund, figure out how much you spend in a month. This is one of the first things most financial planners recommend to people who want to take controle of their money — you might be surprised by how much you're actually spending.
With a spreadsheet, app, or even a pen and paper if you prfeer, track every dollar you spend in a month. After a few months, you can start to get an idea of just how much you'll need in income to make stay-at-home parenthood work for your family, and you'll have to change to continue living within your means.
3. Start bulking up your emergency fund
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An emergency fund is a non-negotiable for any family, but when you're relying on one income, it's even more essential.
Financial planner John Pak of Otium Advisory Group in Los Angeles explains that it's all about the "what-ifs," and being prepared to handle them without taking on debt. "What if you get sick? What if you get terminated? What if your company fires you because they're downsizing? I think that's a legitimate fear," says Pak. "To squash that fear, you need to have a good, hefty savings account that's just reserved for emergency situations."
Business Insider's Tanza Loudenback reports that a single-earner household should generally have about six months of expenses saved, double the recommended amount for dual-income family.
You want to keep that money somewhere safe, but liquid, like a high-yield savings account. A savings account at a traditional bank earns about .1% interest, while a high-yield savings account earns 15 to 20 times that much. It's not hard for six months of expenses to add to up to five figures, so every dollar counts.
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- Business Insider 17:45November 15, 2019Here's how working in the sex industry prepared me to be a wife and mothershapecharge/Getty Images Melissa Petro is a freelance writer, teacher, wife, and mother living in New York City.
In college, she worked as a sex worker. Later in life, when she became an elementary school teacher, she was forced to resign after administrators were alerted to her writing about sex work.
She says that working as a stripper and call girl prepared her for knowing what she wanted in a marriage — a partner who would invest equally in a relationship.
Being misunderstood as a sex worker also prepared her for the hostility and misunderstanding leveled against mothers. And it helped her when it came to hustling to get all of the jobs of motherhood done, and being honest about what she was experiencing.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. People want strippers, prostitutes, and porn stars to leave the industry. But when we do, they shun us.
The loss of my career as a elementary school teacher in 2010 — when the media alerted school administrators to the fact that I was writing and sharing stories about working as a stripper and call girl prior to becoming a teacher — makes my point all too salient. Even though my competence as a school teacher was never called into question, I was humiliated in the media — all while parents who'd never met me clutched their pearls and clucked their tongues.
Certainly, in the eyes of many people, sex workers are not "marriage material." They're unfit to be around young people. Yet, rather than disqualifying me, sex work prepared me for my life as a wife and mom.
Four years after the loss of my teaching job, I met and married my husband. A year later, we had our first child. I am currently pregnant with my second baby. Though my life looks very different today, my past will always be a part of me.
Working as a stripper and call girl more than paid for my education — it was an education in and of itself. As a result of my unique journey, I've learned a lot, including one big lesson: Mothering and sex work are two of the hardest jobs that a woman can do — and the ways both mothers and sex workers are compelled to stay silent about our realities makes these difficult jobs that much harder.I knew what I wanted from a marriage
For as long as I can remember, I've always wanted the kind of "normal" family I'd never had growing up. Then, in college, I needed cash fast while living as a student abroad: I became a sex worker, starting as a stripper while living abroad in Oaxaca, Mexico.
With that one impulsive decision, my dream of normalcy felt forever compromised. Yet, the actual job duties were surprisingly familiar.
As a stripper, you get paid to do the emotional labor women are expected to perform for free. Men paid me to sit silently and listen while they complained about their jobs or talked trash about an ex. Working as a call girl was similar: Much of the job was emotional, rather than physical labor. The sex itself was not very different than encounters I'd had as a civilian. Sometimes pleasurable, it was much more often unmemorable.
By the time I met my husband, I was tired of putting men's needs first. I wanted a partner prepared to invest as much in our relationship as I would. I wanted a healthy sexual relationship. There's a stereotype that women don't enjoy sex as much as men do, and the men I met professionally often complained about their "frigid" wives. As a wife, I would have no problem pleasing my husband — but I expected to enjoy our sex life, too.
I found all that when I met Arran. Unlike men I'd dated before him, Arran was relatively understanding when it came to my sexual past. With our marriage, I felt a certain level of social acceptance — until motherhood ushered in a whole new host of misconceptions.
I got used to being misunderstood
Sex work defines the people who do it more than any occupation. No matter the realities of our experiences, we are thought of as victims and as inherently damaged — either before or as a result of our profession. Current and former sex workers are considered a danger to society and unfit for serious public service. Stereotypes like these cost me my career. These days, stigma leveraged at sex workers threatens my relationship to my children.
Without a doubt, the sex industry — and women who participate in it — are uniquely misunderstood; but modern motherhood, too, is cloaked in misconception.
As author Sady Doyle observed for Elle, mothers are caricatured as either magical or miserable. We're either — as Doyle puts it— "the glowing, selfless Madonna who spends every minute in rapt contemplation of her child's perfection," or else we are "the harried, frazzled, three-days-without-a-shower woman who tromps through life in sweatpants covered in baby urine and milky spit-up."
While mothers who work outside the home are misunderstood, stay-at-home moms fight their own host of stereotypes. As a stay-at-home mom, I'm painted as a lazy, self-indulgent woman who spends her idle days lunching with fellow unemployed mommies, or frittering away her hardworking husband's salary on shopping. The stay-at-home mom — much like the "high-class hooker" — is a lightning rod for class resentments, never mind the fact that I was as economically coerced into surrendering my career as I was situationally compelled into selling sex.
Initially, I was bewildered by the animus aimed at mothers, but I've learned to handle the hostility in stride — just as I've learned to cope with the hatred aimed at sex workers.
I learned how to hustle
Prior to full-time parenting, I assumed it would be easy. Instead, fantasies of relaxed days spent introducing my infant to educational toys while baking homemade bread and beautifying my home, then working on my own career while he napped, failed to reflect my experience. Full-time mothering — like stripping and prostitution — is hard work.
Thanks to having worked in the sex industry, I know how to hustle. When Oscar was still an infant, I could do the dishes, feed the baby, change him twice, make the bed, and fold a good portion of the laundry all before his first nap. My first year and a half of parenting flew by, a blur of momming and chores. It was nonstop eight to six, at which point my husband came home and we'd split the "second shift."
Sex work taught me how to do it all while wearing the reassuring smile my toddler relies on. What's more, my former career helped me long ago get over any prudishness related to my body. Parenting boards are shockingly priggish, whereas I had no problem asking an online mommy group about hormone-related vaginal dryness. As an infant, when Oscar would act up in public, I'd have no qualms about whipping out a boob.
I'm a good mom not in spite, but because, of my sex work past. I'm not perfect. No mom is — and we shouldn't have to pretend to be.
See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:It's time to kick your adult children off of your family phone plan — here's how to do it right22 founders share the one thing they wished they'd known before starting a business5 ways you're sabotaging your progress without even realizing it, according to a life coachSEE ALSO: My husband and I have a 'family meeting' every week, and it saved our marriage after I became a mom
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- Business Insider 21:38November 14, 2019I had 4 miscarriages, saw 10 specialists, and nearly gave up on being a mother. Then I had a daughter.Getty/ Andrew Matthews - PA Images / Contributor When Hilaria Baldwin, wife of Alec Baldwin, opened up about her second miscarriage in a year, author Amy Klein was brought back to the period in her life when she was dealing with recurrent pregnancy loss.
Klein had four miscarriages, saw 10 specialists, and nearly gave up on ever becoming a mother.
Four years later, she gave birth to a daughter, and her book about the experience, "The Trying Game: Get Through Fertility Treatment And Get Pregnant Without Losing Your Mind," will be published in April.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. When I saw Hilaria Baldwin's heart-wrenching post about her second pregnancy loss in a year, it stopped me in my tracks.
The wife of Alec Balwdin and mother of four shared on Instagram on Monday that she lost another pregnancy at four months, noting, "we are not OK right now."See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: People are still debating the pink or grey sneaker, 2 years after it went viral. Here's the real color explained.See Also:It's not just Rock n' Plays — any inclined sleep product could put a baby's life at riskItaly now requires car seat alarms to prevent hot-car deaths in children, and the US may follow suitTeens girls who sext may be more likely to be depressed and anxious
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- Business Insider 20:42November 14, 2019This motorized bee toy encourages 3 stages of development with lights, music, and movement — my son learned to crawl with it and still loves it as a toddler
Skip Hop The Skip Hop Explore & More Follow Bee Crawl ($24.99) is a colorful, innovative product that encourages babies to crawl and even walk.
This three-stage developmental toy also reinforces concepts like cause and effect.
I thought that once my son started walking, we wouldn't need the bee anymore, but he still expresses interest in playing with it. Product Embed: Product Name: Skip Hop Explore & More Follow Bee Crawl Toy Card Type: small https://produktor.businessinsider.com/productCardService?id=5dcd632c7eece52514087692&type=small&live=true Width: 100% Height: 150%
When I started researching the best toys for beginning crawlers, I was wary of options with flashing lights and repetitive music. They all just seemed over-stimulating for my baby, and honestly, the rest of the family (husband and two dogs included). Then I received the Skip Hop Explore & More Follow Bee Crawl Toy as a gift. I was pleasantly surprised by the product, and more importantly, my baby loved it.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:This unique toy is helping my 16-month-old learn about emotions — it displays 6 different faces to show how it's feelingThese wireless earbuds have built-in AI technology that provides real-time coaching as I'm running — I’ve cut my mile time by more than 3 minutesBanza vs. RightRice — how 2 low-carb rice alternatives stack up in taste and nutritional value
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- Business Insider 20:13November 14, 20197 nannies who work for the rich and powerful share one thing they wish their bosses knew — but would never tell themBoris SV/Getty Images Elite nannies often know the households of the rich and powerful better than the parents themselves.
Business Insider asked nannies what they wish their bosses knew — and they had feedback about everything from household security to their job responsibilities.
One nanny was concerned about the pressure the parents' high expectations put on the kids.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. When you hire people to run your household, it's possible that they just might get to know how it works better than you do.
Business Insider interviewed seven elite nannies to find out what they learned about the households of the rich and powerful — but were afraid to tell to their bosses. The nannies had feedback on everything from household security to their job responsibilities.
Keep reading to learn more about what the households of the rich and powerful are really like.
Note: Business Insider was able to verify each nanny's identity, but we refrained from publishing some of their full names to protect their privacy.
Do you nanny for a wealthy family and have a story to share? Contact the reporter via encrypted messaging app Signal at +1 (646) 768-4725 using a non-work phone, email at email@example.com, or Twitter DM at @TaylorNRogers. (PR pitches by email only, please.)1. "The pay, benefits and perks are amazing; but they can come with a cost to your own personal life."
Elite nannies can make up to $150,000 with full benefits, according to Katie Provinziano, the managing director of Los Angeles staffing agency Westside Nannies — but the costs are steep, too.
Many elite nannies regularly work late into the night and travel with families for weeks on end. As a result, many elite nannies change careers after three to five years, Provinziano told Business Insider.
2. "79% of the little details they think matter when it comes to taking care of the kids absolutely don't."
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"Oftentimes nannies know there's the parents' way of doing things, and there's the nanny way of doing things, since we're actually 'boots on the ground' 24/7," one nanny told Business Insider. "A lot of things set in place and a lot of things that fill stackable nanny employee binders are all great in theory but many times they just have no idea."
3. "They are paying me to be their friend and drinking buddy."
One nanny said that the mother asked her to return to the family's hotel suite after dropping the son off for school to pick out the mother's outfit and keep her company.
See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:The world's largest brewer, which produces Corona and Budweiser, is about to get even bigger. Meet AB InBev's famously private CEO, who has only one hobby and doesn't like company perks.Elizabeth Warren and Bernie Sanders have both proposed taxes on the ultra-wealthy. Here's how much poorer America's 10 wealthiest billionaires would be under a moderate wealth tax.15 people who became billionaires in 2019 — and 14 who lost their status in the three-comma clubSEE ALSO: 15 people who became billionaires in 2019 — and 14 who lost their status in the three-comma club
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- Business Insider 19:21November 14, 2019A model didn't realize she was pregnant until she was giving birth, but 'cryptic pregnancies' happen more often than you might thinkRyanJLane / Getty An Australian model gave birth to a baby without even realizing she was pregnant.
23-year-old Erin Langmaid told 7News she felt intense stomach cramps, and a baby daughter arrived within about 10 minutes.
"I wasn't showing obviously because I fit into everything. It's just really bizarre," Langmaid told 7News. "I'm still in shock, but you just adjust and this is our life now. We wouldn't change it."
Langmaid experienced what is known as a "cryptic pregnancy." It can affect as many as one in 2,500 women.
Dr. Isis Amer-Wahlin from Bonzun, the virtual midwife, told Insider pregnancy can go unnoticed because of irregular periods, an athletic physique, and dismissing the symptoms as other things like food poisoning.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Australian model Erin Langmaid had a huge surprise when she gave birth to her daughter in the bathroom because she didn't even realize she had been pregnant.
Langmaid, who is a 23-year-old model, told 7News baby Isla arrived in just 10 minutes after she started having intense stomach cramps. She'd had no bump, morning sickness, cravings, or any signs of pregnancy at all, and was also taking contraceptive injections.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:A YouTuber used an Ed Sheeran lookalike to trick influencers and tabloids into believing that the real singer was at the KSI vs Logan Paul fightThe actor who played Neville Longbottom in 'Harry Potter' told Tom Felton to 'speak for yourself' after the Malfoy actor said 'aging's a b----'I lived at the top of the second-tallest apartment building in the world for less than $1,400 a month, and I felt like royalty
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- Business Insider 18:03November 14, 2019It's not just Rock n' Plays — any inclined sleep product could put a baby's life at riskGetty Parents should stop using all inclined sleepers, according to a new report from the Consumer Product Safety Commission. Some experts say that these sleepers should be removed from the market altogether.
From 2005 to 2019, there were more than 1,000 incidents related to inclined sleepers, including 73 infant deaths.
Babies are at a heightened risk of suffocation after rolling over in these devices. More research is needed to understand why infants who are stationary have died while sleeping in these products.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories Parents should stop using all inclined sleepers for their babies since the products increase risk for injury and have been linked to 73 infant deaths, according to a new report.
The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) released the report last month, instructing parents and caregivers to cease using any infant sleep product with an incline of more than 10 degrees, significantly expanding on its original warning to just avoid certain models. The new recommendation essentially eliminates any products marketed for sleeping that are not flat. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A podiatrist explains heel spurs, the medical condition Trump said earned him a medical deferment from VietnamSee Also:Italy now requires car seat alarms to prevent hot-car deaths in children, and the US may follow suitTeens girls who sext may be more likely to be depressed and anxiousJennifer Garner shared a relatable mom moment after taking her daughter to the bus in a robe and slippers
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- Business Insider 01:49November 14, 2019This unique toy is helping my 16-month-old learn about emotions — it displays 6 different faces to show how it's feeling
Alicia Betz Helping toddlers and young kids learn to understand and express their emotions can be a big challenge.
Whatsitsface ($29.99) is a unique new toy that can help kids learn about emotions, and it encourages imaginative play.
The toy is available as a stuffed dog or cat that has six different faces, each displaying a specific emotion: happy, sad, surprised, angry, laughing, and sleeping.
Watching my 16-month-old daughter explore emotions by playing with this toy is really interesting — she has already learned to give it a hug when it's sad. Product Embed: Product Name: Whatsitsface Stuffed Cat Card Type: small https://produktor.businessinsider.com/productCardService?id=5dcb286c3afd37312e632e76&type=small&live=true Width: 100% Height: 150%
Kids have big emotions and learning how to express, control, and understand them is no easy feat. You know this if you've had a toddler — often, tantrums are a result of anger or frustration at not being able to express their feelings. Even as kids get older, processing feelings is still a challenge. Heck, it's even difficult for many adults. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:I never understood the hype around Patagonia — but this one sweater changed my mind and now I'm a member of the cult fan base30 tech gifts for teens that fit all budgets and interestsI bought my dining room table from Perigold, the high-end furniture store backed by Wayfair — here's everything you need to know
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- Business Insider 19:50November 13, 2019Italy now requires car seat alarms to prevent hot-car deaths in children, and the US may follow suitGetty A new law in Italy will require drivers to install alarms in car seats. The mechanism is designed to keep parents from forgetting a child in a car, and prevent deaths from heat stroke.
In the U.S., where 52 children have died in hot cars this year, advocates say that a whole-car alarm system is more efficient, since up to one-third of children who die in hot cars are not in car seats.
Legislation has been submitted in the House of Representatives to require such systems in vehicles and the US auto industry has agreed to make these mainstream by 2025.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Italy has become the first country to require drivers to equip their vehicles with car seat alarms, a measure that aims to prevent hot-car deaths in children.
A new law in Italy will require drivers to install an alarm in car seats
The law, which took effect on Nov. 7, applies to anyone who drives a child younger than 4. Those drivers are now required to fit car seats with alarms, which alert them when a child is in the car, CNN reported. Some of the devices make a sound when a person exits the vehicle, while others send a notification to a person's phone when they've ventured a significant distance. The ultimate goal is to remind a parent to take the child out of the car with them to prevent serious injuries, and heatstroke, which can be fatal. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Behind the scenes with Shepard Smith — the Fox News star who just announced his resignation from the networkSee Also:There’s evidence that high levels of screen time in preschoolers may hinder brain developmentT.I. said he goes to his daughter's gynecologist appointments to make sure her hymen is intactA 27-year-old mother breast pumped while running the New York City Marathon
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- Business Insider 01:36November 13, 2019I bought this 2.5-foot Christmas tree toy so my daughter can decorate her own tree — it's a fun way for kids to 'help out' over the holidaysAlicia Betz/Business Insider I love introducing my daughter to Christmas, and this plastic Christmas tree toy is the perfect way to get her excited for the season.
The Step2 My First Christmas Tree comes with a star topper, ornaments, and a train that can circle around the base. It's available in classic green ($39.63) or blue and white ($49.99).
At about 2.5 feet tall, this tree is a great toy and decoration for young toddlers. Product Embed: Product Name: Step2 My First Christmas Tree Card Type: small https://produktor.businessinsider.com/productCardService?id=5dcacdb63afd370efa6139a2&type=small&live=true Width: 100% Height: 150%
I have an unabashed obsession with all things Christmas, and even though my 16-month-old daughter Ellie is too young to really understand Christmas, I'm so excited to share the fun of the season with her this year. She loves to look at Christmas lights, help put up decorations, and say "ho ho ho" when she sees Santa.
Toddlers can leave quite the tornado in their wake, especially with all the extra clutter Christmas tends to bring. However, I'm not going to lie: I'm a little bit nervous about what she'll do to our Christmas tree when we set it up this year. I'm sure nothing will deter her from trying to play with it, but I know having her own little tree can only help.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:These sulfate-free hair-care products define and hydrate my curls so well that even my second-day hair looks greatThe best dollhousesDisney Plus: Everything you need to know about Disney's ad-free streaming service that launched today
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- Business Insider 00:48November 13, 2019Hilaria Baldwin had her second miscarriage in less than a year. Here's what to know about recurrent pregnancy loss.Getty In an emotional Instagram post on Monday, Hilaria Baldwin shared that she had a pregnancy loss at four months — her second this year.
Pregnancy loss is the most common complication of pregnancy in the United States, but the experience is still shrouded in shame. In a 2015 survey, nearly half of people surveyed who had experienced this said they felt "guilty."
Dr. Zev Williams, a reproductive endocrinologist, said he appreciates Baldwin's openness and hopes it will help dispel common misconceptions around pregnancy loss.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. On Monday, Hilaria Baldwin posted an emotional message on Instagram, sharing that she lost her pregnancy at four months. It was the second time this year.
Baldwin, a mother of four and wife to actor Alec Baldwin, has been refreshingly candid about her experiences with pregnancy, pregnancy loss, and the challenges involved in raising young children.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Here's how to escape a flooding vehicleSee Also:Parents say a $20 Ikea high chair is as good as the fancy ones that cost hundreds of dollarsAn 11-year-old was devastated when no one came to his birthday party. Then Justin Trudeau, Zach Braff, and Ben Stiller made it the best day ever.I ran the New York City Marathon in memory of my baby daughter. It was 26 miles for every month she fought to live.
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- Business Insider 23:25November 12, 2019The best dollhousesA dollhouse is a classic childhood toy for boys and girls alike to play, imagine, and learn.
Before choosing a dollhouse, think about what is important to you and your child. We spoke to toy expert and senior editor at Toys, Tots, Pets & More to find out what makes a dollhouse great.
Our pick for the best dollhouse overall is the KidKraft Majestic Mansion, a sprawling four-story dollhouse complete with 34 accessories and an elevator. The play opportunities with this one are truly endless. A dollhouse is one of those quintessential toys of childhood that almost everyone has fond memories playing with. I can still picture my childhood dollhouse and remember it as one of my favorite toys. Not only are dollhouses fun to play with, but they're excellent tools for parents to model positive behavior, teach conflict resolution, help children express their emotions, and connect with their kids through play.
As an open-ended toy, the play scenarios with dollhouses are endless as children invent realistic and imaginary scenes. Dollhouses are even popular tools child psychologists use during play therapy.
What to look for in a dollhouse
Before choosing a dollhouse, think about what is important to you and your child: size, number of accessories, portability, and theme, for example. We spoke to toy expert and senior editor at Toys, Tots, Pets & More (TTPM), Laurie Leahey, about what makes a dollhouse great.
"Kids want something with lots of space for them to play with their dolls and something that comes with a lot of accessories so that the dollhouse feels furnished, and kids have everything they need to start playing," Leahey said.
She also talked about the aspirational aspect of a dollhouse. Things like elevators, winding staircases, or sprawling mansions are fun for kids because they're different from what we see every day. At the same time, she said, "It's always nice to have something realistic in the dollhouse, whether that's a toilet accessory that makes a flushing sound, working lights, etc. These are things that kids are familiar with, and they want their dollhouse to have functionality just like their real house."
Of course, assembly is almost always required with dollhouses, so that's something parents need to take into consideration when choosing a dollhouse.
A word about our picks
You'll notice that several of our picks are KidKraft dollhouses because time and time again, they won over the competition. KidKraft houses consistently check all the boxes of a great dollhouse: They're large enough to give kids room to play, they include aspirational aspects while still remaining functional, they come with fun accessories, and they're built to last.
From huge dollhouse mansions to starter dollhouses for toddlers, we combed through the options and relied on expert advice to compile this guide to the best dollhouses.
Here are the best dollhouses you can buy: Best dollhouse overall: KidKraft Majestic Mansion
Best budget-friendly dollhouse: Melissa & Doug Fold & Go Mini Dollhouse
Best gender-neutral dollhouse: Hape All Season House
Best toddler dollhouse: Fisher-Price Little People Big Helpers Home
Best Disney dollhouse: KidKraft Disney Princess Cinderella Royal Dreams Dollhouse
The best dollhouse overall
The KidKraft Majestic Mansion is just that — a majestic mansion that has four stories, eight rooms, and 34 accessories to keep your children endlessly entertained.
Measuring 52 inches wide, 14 inches deep, and 53.62 inches tall (that's over 4.5 feet!), the Kidkraft Majestic Mansion is the ultimate dollhouse. With eight rooms total, this house comprises three stories plus an attic, and it even includes a garage and a manual working elevator.
Having a dollhouse that's as big as you are and includes all the bells and whistles is more than enough to get immersed in play. What else could a child need to get their imagination going? We love that this dollhouse combines those aspirational pieces Leahey mentioned with everyday items that kids are familiar with, like a toilet, a garage, and a baby crib.
The mansion comes furnished with 34 pieces, and although it doesn't come with dolls, it works for dolls up to 12 inches. Some dolls that work well include Barbies and mini American Girl dolls. Kidkraft also sells a family of seven dolls separately. The house is made of wood with some fabric accessories and is recommended for ages 3 and up. Because the house and accessories are made of wood, they're easy to wipe down, but you wouldn't be able to throw them wash them under running water.
The sheer size of this dollhouse makes it perfect for multiple kids to play together. This also means it's going to take up a lot of space in your home, so make sure you have a good spot for it to live before you decide on this one. You'll also want to give yourself plenty of time for assembly. Another thing to note about this house is that the facade is very plain, so that side is best for facing toward a wall.
We Love Dollhouses, a dollhouse review website, tested the Majestic Mansion called it "fun, built to last, and extremely affordable." One of their favorite aspects is the attention to detail from a place for dolls to put their soap to the beautiful paintings on the walls of each room.
Pros: Very large, includes 34 furniture pieces and accessories, interactive features, very sturdy
Cons: Dolls not included, assembly can take a while
The best budget-friendly dollhouse
Melissa & Doug
Your kids and your wallet will be happy with the Melissa & Doug Fold & Go Mini Dollhouse. It comes fully assembled with furniture and dolls, so you won't need to buy any extras.
Maybe you want to test out a dollhouse with your kids before investing in a more expensive one, or maybe pricier options just aren't in the budget. Melissa & Doug is an excellent toy brand that always delivers quality kids' products, and we love their Fold & Go Mini Dollhouse.
You're obviously not going to get all the bells and whistles with this compact option that's suitable children 3 years and older, but it comes ready to go with everything you need. Inside, you'll find two stories, four rooms, and a flight of stairs. It also includes 11 pieces of wooden furniture and two dolls. The house itself measures 13.13 inches high, 10.63 inches long, 6.13 inches wide, and weighs 4.65 pounds.
If you're trying to get your money's worth, this is a great choice because you can fold it up and take it with you anywhere you go — it even has a convenient carrying handle, but note that there's not a latch to keep the house closed when it's folded up. You can also personalize it with your child's name, which is a fun touch and helpful if your child plays with it outside your home.
Even better, you won't have to spend any time assembling this dollhouse, giving parents around the world a sigh of relief.
Pros: Compact, comes fully assembled with furniture and dolls, portable, can be personalized
Cons: No latch to keep it closed when traveling
The best gender-neutral dollhouse
Boys and girls alike will reap the benefits of playing with the gender-neutral Hape All Season House that has six fully furnished rooms that just need the finishing touch of a child's imagination.
Dollhouses aren't just for girls — boys can have a lot of fun playing with them, but some boys don't want to play with a toy that looks "girly." The All Season House is gender-neutral, encouraging both boys and girls to engage in imaginative play.
This modern dollhouse complete with solar panels on the roof has three stories, six rooms, and multiple open sides, making it easy for kids to play together. The roof can be changed to show different seasons, which can help your child imagine a variety of scenarios while they're playing. Another really cool feature is the moveable stairs.
Hape's All Season House comes fully furnished with moveable parts to help kids 3 years and older create different scenarios within the home. It doesn't come with dolls, so you'll have to purchase them separately. Dolls that will fit this house include Hape dolls, Melissa & Doug dolls, Calico Critters, or Plan dolls. Some assembly is required, so don't expect to open the box and be able to use it right away.
The house measures 23.6 inches long, 11.8 inches deep, and 28.9 inches high. It's made entirely of wood, making it easy to wipe down.
Wirecutter picked the Hape All Season House as one of the best toys overall to buy for a 3-year-old. They also like how it's gender-neutral and has open rooms for 360-degree play. One of their writers who tested the home said, "My daughter loved that she could reach into any room from almost any spot to adjust the furniture and play with the wooden people (sold separately)."
Pros: Gender-neutral, fully furnished, season-changing roof, large enough for multiple kids to play together
Cons: Dolls not included, assembly required
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- Business Insider 21:06November 11, 2019A pit bull attacked and killed a 4-year-old boy, reigniting debate over whether the breed is inherently violentGetty A family in Hazel Park, Michigan agreed to dog sit a pit bull, which attacked and killed their 4-year-old son, Benjamin.
People who believe pit bulls are inherently dangerous say this incident is proof that the dogs should be banned. Advocates for pit bulls say they're stigmatized and such attacks get a disproportionate amount of media attention.
Between 2005 and 2013, dogs killed 433 people in the US. Of those incidents, 66% were perpetrated by pit bulls, more than any other type of dog, according to data compiled by Dogs Bite.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. When a friend asked the Cobbs if they could dogsit, the Michigan family didn't hesitate. That kind gesture led to a tragedy when the pit bull they were watching attacked and killed the Cobbs' 4-year-old son, Benjamin, last month, according to the Detroit Free Press.
The incident has reignited a debate over whether pit bulls are inherently dangerous, or if they're unfairly stigmatized. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: How to find water when you're stuck in the desertSee Also:An 11-year-old was devastated when no one came to his birthday party. Then Justin Trudeau, Zach Braff, and Ben Stiller made it the best day ever.Fertility clinics are offering 'add-on' treatments to desperate couples that are expensive and potentially dangerousParents say a $20 Ikea high chair is as good as the fancy ones that cost hundreds of dollars
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- Business Insider 17:54November 11, 2019A 10-year-old boy who used to get in trouble for doodling in school got a job drawing on the wall of a restaurantGreg Whale/The Doodle Boy Joe Whale is a 10-year-old artist from Shrewsbury, England, whose clever doodles landed him a gig creating a huge mural at a local restaurant.
Insider spoke with Joe's dad, Greg, and the artist himself, who revealed his favorite drawing supplies: Sharpies and Paper Mate pens.
Greg Whale said he was "blown away" by his son's work at the restaurant: "I was sitting there in awe a little bit."
The family is now selling products designed by Joe, and any earnings will help fund his art education.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Joe Whale is a 10-year-old from Shrewsbury, England, who needs only a blank canvas and a trusty black marker to bring his imagination to life.
The young artist has taken the internet by storm with his clever doodles, which feature witty creatures and designs that can come only from the vivid imagination of Joe — now known as The Doodle Boy.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A 45-year-long study discovered trends in successful hyper-intelligent childrenSee Also:24 mind-bending photos shortlisted for the Architectural Photography AwardsFertility clinics are offering 'add-on' treatments to desperate couples that are expensive and potentially dangerousI visited New York City's colorful new slime museum, and it's an Instagram lover's dream
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- Guardian 15:58November 11, 2019Shakira: 'I needed surgery – or divine intervention'When Shakira lost her voice she was so desperate she went to Lourdes. Now it’s back – and after re-evaluating her life she’s got her sights set on a J Lo-assisted Super Bowl showThere was a time, in late 2017, when Shakira thought she might never sing again. After suffering a haemorrhage in her vocal cords, she could barely speak. “I always thought there were going to be things in my life that would go away, like beauty, youth, all of that stuff,” she says. “But I never thought that my voice would leave me, because it’s so inherent to my nature. It was my identity. So when I couldn’t sing, that was unbearable. There were times I couldn’t even get out of bed – I was so depressed.”There’s something almost fairytale-like about this: a cautionary fable about the danger of taking happiness for granted, starring the Colombian singer who sold a reported 75m records and became one of the richest women in pop. To give her voice the best chance to recover, there were periods when Shakira wouldn’t speak at all. “I had to communicate through signs and nobody could understand me.” Continue reading...
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- Huffington Post UK 12:49November 11, 2019The Funniest Tweets From Parents This Week
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- WIRED 15:00November 10, 2019Amazon Kindle for Kids Review: Kid Tested, Mother ApprovedGet your child a Kindle and use it to support your local library!
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- Business Insider 22:00November 9, 2019Ryan Holiday says that embracing true 'stillness' is the key to exceptional work performance — and better parentingCourtesy of Dan Schawbel Dan Schawbel is a bestselling author, speaker, entrepreneur, and host of the "5 Questions with Dan Schawbel" podcast, where he interviews world-class humans by asking them just five questions in under 10 minutes.
He recently interviewed Ryan Holiday, the bestselling author of "Stillness Is the Key," "Ego is the Enemy," and "The Obstacle is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph."
Ryan defines stillness as being present and having clarity of intention.
He says, "We're not experiencing the stillness that we need to make good decisions, to be happy, and to bring our best work out from wherever it comes from."
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Even though he dropped out of college as a teenager, Ryan Holiday received his education by apprenticing under some of the most successful authors of the past decade, including Tim Ferriss, Tucker Max, and Robert Greene.
After supporting the book marketing campaign for Greene's "The 50th Law," Greene introduced Ryan to the CEO of American Apparel. Ryan served as the director of marketing for the company from 2009 until 2014, where he was responsible for many notable media stunts, which became the inspiration for his first book "Trust Me, I'm Lying." Since then, he's written several other books, including "The Obstacle Is The Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph," "Ego Is the Enemy," and his latest, "Stillness Is the Key."See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:Requiring corporations to follow 'progressive labor standards' by providing higher wages and better benefits can help even the playing field for small businesses and workersFall is peak anxiety season in the workplace, and it can cost companies billions of dollars. Here's how bosses can help manage their employees' stress.The surprising business lesson I learned from salmon conservationistsSEE ALSO: A well-known Hollywood producer shares his simple trick for correcting awkward professional moments
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- Business Insider 17:00November 9, 2019Teens girls who sext may be more likely to be depressed and anxiousJet Cat Studio / Shutterstock According to newly presented results of an ongoing study, teen girls who sext are more likely to have anxiety and depression than teens who don't sext, but the frequency of sexting among those who do doesn't seem to affect mental health.
The researchers also found that teens who sexted more often were more likely to have negative family environments and more experiences with peer pressure than less-frequent sexters.
The study co-author said that since more sexting doesn't necessarily mean more mental health problems, the behavior might be seen as "a normal aspect of sexual development"
Visit Insider's homepage for more. For today's teen, sexting is more common than ever before, but researchers are still unsure how the practice of sending and receiving explicit images affects teens, especially female teens, psychologically.
New findings presented Friday at the annual meeting of the The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, suggest whether, but not how frequently, teen girls sext is what matters for their mental health. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:T.I. said he goes to his daughter's gynecologist appointments to make sure her hymen is intactPeople are trying to diagnose their gonorrhea and chlamydia on Reddit, and doctors worry it’s making outbreaks worseThe Roman Catholic Church has launched an inquiry after two nuns came back from their missionary trips pregnant
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- Business Insider 20:59November 8, 2019I ran the New York City Marathon in memory of my baby daughter. It was 26 miles for every month she fought to live.Seth Galena After months of missed milestones and constant fevers, 1-year-old Ayelet Galena was diagnosed with a rare disease that affects one in 4 million people.
Her only chance at survival was to find a bone marrow match, so her parents got to work organizing bone marrow drives across the country. They found a potential match, but Ayelet ultimately died from related complications.
Seven years after her passing, Ayelet's father, Seth, ran the New York City Marathon in memory of his daughter. He channeled her strength and perseverance to get through it.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. When I learned that our one-year-old daughter, Ayelet, had a rare and potentially fatal disease, I turned to my doctor friend, Sheemon, and asked him to level with me.
"This will be a marathon," he told me. "Not a sprint." See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Here's how to escape a flooding vehicleSee Also:Fertility clinics are offering 'add-on' treatments to desperate couples that are expensive and potentially dangerousAn 11-year-old was devastated when no one came to his birthday party. Then Justin Trudeau, Zach Braff, and Ben Stiller made it the best day ever.Parents say a $20 Ikea high chair is as good as the fancy ones that cost hundreds of dollars
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- WIRED 18:00November 8, 201913 Best STEM Toys for Kids That Make Learning FunWe found math-filled and science-rich books, puzzles, coding kits, and more for the little STEAM-heads in your life.
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- Business Insider 17:26November 8, 2019Parents say a $20 Ikea high chair is as good as the fancy ones that cost hundreds of dollarsIkea Some of the most sought after high chairs cost hundreds of dollars, but many parents say they're choosing a $20 Ikea chair over more expensive options.
Users say the Ikea Antilop high chair is easy to clean, simple to assemble, lightweight, and sturdy.
Writer Alicia Betz said she loves the Antilop chair as a backup or for travel, and would use it as a primary high chair if it had a footrest.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. When I was pregnant and preparing for my daughter's arrival, I did extensive research on all the baby products. That lead me to splurge on a number of things, including a $129 high chair with bells and whistles. It had comfortable padding, recline positions for infants, even a built in cup holder. Only the best for my new bundle of joy.
It wasn't until after my daughter was born that I heard about the $19.99 Ikea Antilop high chair, and boy did I hear about it again… and again… and again. Moms everywhere were talking about how great it was. But I wasn't convinced. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Behind the scenes with Shepard Smith — the Fox News star who just announced his resignation from the networkSee Also:An 11-year-old was devastated when no one came to his birthday party. Then Justin Trudeau, Zach Braff, and Ben Stiller made it the best day ever.Fertility clinics are offering 'add-on' treatments to desperate couples that are expensive and potentially dangerousAn anti-vaxxer said she gave trick-or-treaters chicken-pox-infected lollipops, claiming they help with 'life-long immunity'
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- Business Insider 00:51November 8, 20196 signs you probably can't afford to be a stay-at-home parentMNStudio/Shutterstock.com Having one parent stay home with children means losing one salary, and it's not right for every family.
Several signs that stay-at-home parenthood isn't right for your family include a high debt-to-income ratio, a negative cash flow, and a lack of an emergency fund.
If you will face any of these financial situations, being a one-income family might not be right for you.
Read more personal finance coverage. Having one parent stay home isn't for every family. While it can be helpful for a number of reasons, including reducing childcare expenses and being able to give extra care to children who may need it, sometimes the numbers just don't work out.
If you're considering having one parent stay home, financial planner John Pak of Otium Advisory Group in Los Angeles, California says some red flags will pop up if you're not ready. From a high debt-to-income ratio to living paycheck-to-paycheck, there are seven signs that being a one-income family might not be right for your family right now. 1. You have a high debt-to-income ratio
Having a high debt-to-income ratio could stand in the way of getting new credit in the future. And, it's indicative of your overall financial health, says Pak. "Debt-to-income ratio is key for me because it gives me an idea of how much money is left over after all your obligations have been paid," he says.
While your debt-to-income ratio might be in good shape now, you'll also want to consider what it will look like once one income is gone.
You can calculate this figure by adding up all of your monthly payments and dividing that number by your monthly income. While lenders tend to use gross monthly income (how much money you bring home before taxes) for this calculation, Pak suggests calculating your debt-to-income ratio with your net income, or the amount you see coming into your account each month after taxes.
He suggests keeping your debt-to-income ratio below 45% (.45) for this situation. "If it's above 45%, I think you're risking it," he says.
2. You don't have an emergency fund
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If you don't have an emergency fund to fall back on, you're not ready to have one parent stay home. The reason is simple: Anything could happen, and you'll have to be prepared, especially when your family is relying on one income.
"I like to say that you should have at least six months worth of expenses in a savings account that you know you're not going to touch," says Pak.
An emergency fund is a non-negotiable, and could save you big money down the road if you need it.
3. You'd have to stop saving for retirement
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Whether you're working or not, saving for retirement is a must — you'll always need money to live on when you're older.
Even if you're losing your 401(k), Pak says an IRA is a good place to keep saving. "There's a rule that says that as long as one of the spouses is working, the stay-at-home spouse can create a traditional IRA, regardless of whether they're making money or not," says Pak.
If staying at home and losing one income means that you won't be able to keep saving for retirement, you're probably not ready yet.
See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:My fiancé and I have saved over $100,000, traveled, bought a house, and built wealth — all thanks to a change we made 2 years agoMost millennials say money adds stress to their relationship, but it's just another financial challenge on a growing listRefinancing my mortgage lowered my monthly payment by $200, but I wish I'd known 5 things beforehand
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- Business Insider 22:26November 7, 2019I wear these high-waisted compression leggings more than a year postpartum and wish I had them earlier — they’re supportive, comfortable, and don’t irritate my C-section scarBelly Bandit Belly Bandit's Mother Tucker Moto Leggings are designed to support women postpartum.
The leggings are really high-waisted, come in three different colors, and have a unique moto texture that makes them a little more interesting than solid leggings.
I'm more than a year postpartum, and even though I started wearing these leggings a few months ago, I'd recommend them for any mom. I developed mild diastasis recti after having my daughter, so I like how these leggings smooth and support my core. In fact, I wish I had these leggings when I was pregnant. Product Embed: Product Name: Belly Bandit Mother Tucker Moto Style Leggings Card Type: small https://produktor.businessinsider.com/productCardService?id=5db83e8adee0193ae96f5ca3&type=small&live=true Width: 100% Height: 150%
As a work-at-home mom, I'm constantly on the hunt to find comfortable clothes that still make me look put together when I leave the house. Leggings and loose tops have pretty much become my uniform, but with a toddler attached to my hip, I also need clothes that hide stains well; it's rare that I make it through one day without some sort of spill.
Any mom who lives in leggings knows that when you find the perfect pair, you never want to take them off, and that's exactly what I experienced with Belly Bandit's Mother Tucker Moto Leggings ($89.95).See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:I trust this Britax convertible car seat to protect my daughter — it has multiple layers of padding and an impact-absorbing baseDell is having an early Black Friday sale — here are the best deals you can already shop on laptops, monitors, and moreHarper Wilde makes affordable bras in sizes up to 42F — we had 4 women test them, and here's how they fit
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- Business Insider 21:31November 7, 2019An 11-year-old was devastated when no one came to his birthday party. Then Justin Trudeau, Zach Braff, and Ben Stiller made it the best day ever.Getty Kade Foster was looking forward to celebrating his 11th birthday, and was hurt when no one showed up to his party.
Kade's father, Jason, turned to Twitter and asked that people wish his forlorn son well.
The tweet went viral and thousands of people, including players from the Toronto Maple Leafs and Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau, sent the boy sweet messages.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Kade Foster was excited to celebrate his 11th birthday. The Canadian kid had organized a hockey-themed party, replete with a Toronto Maple Leafs cake. That's his favorite team, after all.
But as Saturday came and went, none of Kade's guests showed up to the festivities. To help his devastated son cope, Jason Foster posted a photo of Kade on Twitter posing with his Maple Leafs T-shirt and cake, and asked people to wish Kade a happy birthday. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A podiatrist explains heel spurs, the medical condition Trump said earned him a medical deferment from VietnamSee Also:Fertility clinics are offering 'add-on' treatments to desperate couples that are expensive and potentially dangerousA mysterious marketing scheme sends congratulatory cards to women who aren’t pregnant. One recipient thought it was her daughter's 'cute' way of telling her she was expecting.An anti-vaxxer said she gave trick-or-treaters chicken-pox-infected lollipops, claiming they help with 'life-long immunity'
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- Business Insider 21:05November 7, 2019Kamala Harris wants to extend the school day by 3 hours to help working parents, but schools shouldn’t have to provide more childcareGetty On Wednesday, presidential candidate Kamala Harris proposed a bill to extend the school day by three hours. The purpose is to offer working parents safe, and free childcare until they get home from work.
Some educators say the responsibility shouldn't fall on already-strapped schools. It may be more feasible for local community centers, which have the infrastructure, to offer robust after-school programs.
Some experts noted that while securing after-school childcare is certainly a challenge, many parents struggle even more over the weekends and during the summers.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. Juliet D'Ambrosio, 45, has six children who range in age from preschool to high school. Both she and her husband work full-time jobs.
The biggest scheduling challenge for the Atlanta, Georgia mother isn't bedtime or even getting everyone out the door in the morning. It's the hours of 3 p.m. to 6 p.m., the time between when her children get home from school and when she returns from work. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Extremists turned a frog meme into a hate symbol, but Hong Kong protesters revived it as an emblem of hopeSee Also:Beto O'Rourke dropped out of the 2020 race. Here's who stands to gain from his surprising exit.Target just released its Black Friday ad. Here's how 'The Target Effect' gets customers to spend more money than they were expecting.The Berlin Wall has been gone longer than it stood. Here's how the 28-mile blockade looks today compared to 1989.
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- Business Insider 19:34November 7, 2019Only children are more likely to be overweight or obese than kids with siblingsChildren without siblings have less healthy eating habits, according to new research.
The new study, while small, adds to existing evidence that only children or "singletons" are at greater risk of obesity.
Though it's not clear why, researchers think families with multiple children spend more time preparing for and organizing meals, leading to healthier choices.
Visit Insider's homepage for more. A surprising new factor that may influence children's eating habits and future weight is how many siblings they have.
Only children have less healthy eating habits than their peers in multi-children homes, according to a new study published Nov. 6 in the Journal of Nutrition Education and Behavior. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:T.I. said he goes to his daughter's gynecologist appointments to make sure her hymen is intactWhat vegan athletes like UFC fighter Nate Diaz eat for protein, from lentils to oatsThe keto diet is becoming more popular for kids, but nutritionists warn it can be 'incredibly risky' for them
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- Business Insider 19:16November 7, 2019I trust this Britax convertible car seat to protect my daughter — it has multiple layers of padding and an impact-absorbing baseAlicia Betz Convertible car seats can save parents money since they can be used from when your child is born until toddlerhood.
The Britax Boulevard ClickTight (324.99 on Amazon) is a comfortable and safe option for my daughter and it's the only car seat she likes using. It fits in our small car and SUV, although it does crowd the front seats in the small car.
I've returned other car seats I wasn't satisfied with. The Britax Boulevard ClickTight has multiple layers of impact protection, thick and comfortable padding, and a harness that's easy to tighten and loosen. Product Embed: Product Name: Britax Boulevard ClickTight Convertible Car Seat Card Type: small https://produktor.businessinsider.com/productCardService?id=5db31ec8dee0193fca6e1e62&type=small&live=true Width: 100% Height: 150%
Choosing a proper car seat for your child is nerve-wracking. It's more than financial investment; as a parent, you want to make sure you're choosing a safe and comfortable car seat for your child, as well as one that can grow with then as they mature into toddlerhood.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderSee Also:Every service Hulu offers begins with a free trial — here's what you need to know to get startedDell is having an early Black Friday sale — here are the best deals you can already shop on laptops, monitors, and moreHarper Wilde makes affordable bras in sizes up to 42F — we had 4 women test them, and here's how they fit
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- Business Insider 18:25November 7, 2019Jennifer Garner shared a relatable mom moment after taking her daughter to the bus in a robe and slippersVivien Killilea/Getty Images for L.A. Dance Project Jennifer Garner shared a photo of herself on Instagram after rushing to prevent her daughter from arriving at school late.
"She barely made the bus on time, but at least her mother kept it classy," the 47-year-old actress captioned the image.
In the photo, Garner was seen in a navy robe with her initials on it, beige slippers on her feet, a mug in one hand, and a phone in the other.
The "13 Going on 30" star has three children with ex-husband Ben Affleck: daughters Violet (born in 2005) and Seraphina (born in 2009) and son Samuel (born in 2012).
Look at the photo below.
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- Business Insider 22:27November 6, 2019There’s evidence that high levels of screen time in preschoolers may hinder brain developmentGetty A small study published in JAMA Pediatrics this week found that children who exceeded screen time recommendations had lower levels of white matter in the brain, which supports language, literacy, and cognitive skills.
Until 18 months, babies shouldn't be exposed to any screens outside of video chatting. Children younger than 5 should get no more than an hour a day, according to the World Health Organization.
When using iPads, cell phones and other devices, an adult should join in with the child to help foster social interactions.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. After years of speculation, there's now evidence to suggest that high exposure to screens in preschool-age children may be linked to lower brain development. The results are particularly notable since the human brain develops at its most rapid rate during those formative years.
A new report published in JAMA Pediatrics this week found that preschool-age children whose screen exposure exceeded the recommended amounts had more disorganized — and lower levels of — white matter in the brain. White matter is critical for fostering language, literacy and cognitive skills. Less white matter essentially means that the brain isn't running at its optimal rate. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Here's how to escape a flooding vehicleSee Also:The Roman Catholic Church has launched an inquiry after two nuns came back from their missionary trips pregnantA woman had a tiny pinworm laying eggs in her butt for 2 months, and it's more common than you might thinkA baby died after being left to sleep in a car seat at daycare. His parents are speaking out to help protect other families.
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- Business Insider 22:10November 6, 2019T.I. said he goes to his daughter's OBGYN appointments to make sure her hymen is intactParas Griffin/Getty Images During a recent episode of the podcast Ladies Like Us, T.I. said he accompanies his daughter Deyjah to yearly gynecological exams to make sure her hymen is still intact.
The hymen is the thin membrane that covers the opening of the vagina. It typically breaks the first time a woman has penetrative sex, but can also break from bike riding, inserting a tampon, or horseback riding.
Additionally, some women aren't even born with hymens, while others need them surgically removed.
Visit Insider's homepage for more. Rapper T.I. is known for his single "Live Your Life," but he has some conditions when it comes to the way his 18-year-old daughter lives hers.
During a recent episode of the podcast Ladies Like Us, T.I. said he accompanies his daughter Deyjah to yearly gynecological exams to make sure her hymen, the thin membrane that covers the opening of the vagina, is still intact. According to the rapper and common thinking, an intact hymen signals a woman has likely never had penetrative sex before.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Most maps of Louisiana aren't entirely right. Here's what the state really looks like.See Also:Douching monthly could add a chemical found in cigarette smoke and rubber to your bloodPeople are trying to diagnose their gonorrhea and chlamydia on Reddit, and doctors worry it’s making outbreaks worseRep. Katie Hill resigned because of revenge porn. Experts say it’s just a high-tech version of victim-blaming.
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- Business Insider 21:20November 6, 2019A 27-year-old mother breast pumped while running the New York City MarathonJoe Jenkins Photo Molly Waitz, of Cutchogue, New York, breast pumped while running the New York City Marathon on Sunday.
It was her first marathon. Waitz gave birth to her son, Bode, eight months ago, according to Good Morning America.
She used a hands-free portable breast pump attached to her chest while running he 26.2-mile race.
She finished in 6 hours and 46 minutes. She pumped nearly 20 ounces of milk along the way.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. A 27-year-old mother ran the New York City Marathon on Sunday, and she did it while breast pumping.
Molly Waitz, of Cutchogue, New York, ran the marathon eight months after she gave birth to her son, Bode, according to Good Morning America.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A podiatrist explains heel spurs, the medical condition Trump said earned him a medical deferment from VietnamSee Also:People are trying to diagnose their gonorrhea and chlamydia on Reddit, and doctors worry it’s making outbreaks worseA college awarded a marching band scholarship to a 5-year-old viral drumming prodigyMore than a hundred years ago, Mormons — including Mitt Romney’s family — fled to Mexico so they could practice polygamy. They’ve been plagued by cartel violence, infighting, and murder ever since.
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- Business Insider 17:07November 6, 2019The Roman Catholic Church has launched an inquiry after two nuns came back from their missionary trips pregnantGetty The Roman Catholic Church is investigating after two nuns returned from a missionary trip pregnant.
The two women were from different orders in Sicily and went on separate charity assignments in Africa.
Both women have moved back to their home countries for childbirth. It is unclear what will happen to them, although they will most likely "leave their religious service."
"They both breached strict rules of chastity but the welfare of their children is uppermost," a church source told a local news agency.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. The Roman Catholic Church is launching an investigation after two nuns returned from a missionary trip pregnant, breaching the strict rules of chastity.
The women, who were from different orders in Sicily, became pregnant while on separate charity assignments in Africa.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Most maps of Louisiana aren't entirely right. Here's what the state really looks like.See Also:‘Prosperity gospel’ pastor Paula White, who believes wealth is a sign of spiritual virtue, joined Trump's administration amid mounting criticism from religious groupsA controversial ad campaign shows a blood-covered girl holding a menstrual cup, and critics say it makes the issue worseR. Kelly's lawyer blamed a toenail infection for the rapper's missed court appearance, but recovery from such an injury doesn't require isolation
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- Business Insider 18:11November 5, 2019Fertility clinics are offering 'add-on' treatments to desperate couples that are expensive and potentially dangerousGetty In addition to getting standard in vitro fertilization treatments, some couples are also pouring money into supplemental "add-on" procedures in hopes of increasing their chances of getting pregnant.
However, new research published on Tuesday suggests that there isn't enough evidence to show that these treatments are helpful and they could perhaps even interfere with a woman's chances of getting pregnant.
Supporters of the add-on procedures say that patients who are eager to get pregnant don't have time to wait for robust evidence.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. After Katie had two miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy, she started exploring assisted reproductive treatments. She found a clinic in the Bay Area, and after her second cycle of in vitro fertilization, she was overjoyed when she learned that she was pregnant. But at 12 weeks, she had another miscarriage.
Determined to increase her chances, Katie — who asked to use just her first name to protect her family's privacy — started researching immunotherapies in IVF. For most people, this involves taking oral medications daily, which suppress the immune system. It's an off-label use of the drugs typically administered to treat cancer patients, people with thyroid disorders, and those with severe autoimmune disorders.See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A 45-year-long study discovered trends in successful hyper-intelligent childrenSee Also:An anti-vaxxer said she gave trick-or-treaters chicken-pox-infected lollipops, claiming they help with 'life-long immunity'A mysterious marketing scheme sends congratulatory cards to women who aren’t pregnant. One recipient thought it was her daughter's 'cute' way of telling her she was expecting.A mom turns her son's healthy meals into works of art inspired by popular characters and the designs are going viral
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- Business Insider 17:55November 5, 2019An overwhelmed father spent a year living in 4 spots around the world with his family to discover new ways to raise his kids — here's what he learnedGary Scott Dan Kois is an editor and writer for Slate, and a contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine. He and his wife — attorney Alia Smith — found themselves stressed and itching to get out of their "parenting bubble."
In 2017, they decided to uproot their lives in Arlington, Virginia, and take their two daughters to New Zealand, the Netherlands, Costa Rica, and Kansas to experience how families lived and coexisted.
During their travels, Kois wrote a memoir documenting their experiences: "How to Be a Family: The Year I Dragged My Kids Around the World to Find a New Way to Be Together."
In an interview with Business Insider, Kois said he would recommend a similar experience to a family considering a change.
Visit Business Insider's homepage for more stories. Overburdened by the East Coast "parenting bubble," Dan Kois and his wife uprooted their family's lives for a year.
In 2017, they fled Arlington, Virginia for New Zealand, the Netherlands, Costa Rica, and Kansas. Their goal was to learn how local families lived, coexisted, and educated their children.
Kois wrote about his family's experiences in his recently published memoir, "How to Be a Family: The Year I Dragged My Kids Around the World to Find a New Way to Be Together." Kois, a writer and editor at Slate, is married to attorney Alia Smith. In 2016, the two found themselves struggling to find a balance between demanding jobs, the tribulations of American daily life, and trying to parent their two pre-teen daughters, Lyra and Harper.
"Our family wasn't broken or dysfunctional, but we were in an unhappy rut, one that seemed of our own making but was also tied to the busy, hyper-competent parenting culture that surrounded us in Arlington," Kois wrote.
Kois and Smith felt "trapped" in this parenting bubble. So they took drastic action and charted a new course for the next year.
They would spend it traveling the world, settling down in four different places to get a taste of their parenting styles and overall lifestyle.
"The goal of the trip was to give our family an experience together in which we have no choice but to get together as a group, do the things that were hard for us, and and have an experience that could change us in some way," Kois said in an interview with Business Insider.
First up was spending January through mid-April in Wellington, New Zealand — Kois' favorite of the four destinations.
Next was the city of Delft, Netherlands, where they stayed until early July.
After that was what Kois and Smith decided was "summer vacation" — July through September in Sámara, Costa Rica.
They concluded their year back in the US, this time in Hays, Kansas. The town has an area of 8.4 square miles and has a population of a little less than 21,000 — a bit of an adjustment from the approximately 237,500 people in Arlington, Virginia's 26 square miles.
Looking back on their travels, Kois said he would have gone about planning it differently.
"I mean, I wouldn't recommend that you be quite so stupid about it," Kois said.
Now, nearly two years after moving back to Arlington, Kois is on tour promoting his book and thinking about what impact the trip left on him and his family. Kois said that he would recommend a trip in the same spirit to anyone considering it, but his experiences taught him a better way of planning major family decisions.
Going into their journey, Kois and Smith made a unilateral decision to uproot their lives — and the lives of their daughters, Harper and Lyra.
That meant bringing them to exciting new locations far and wide. But it also meant starting in three different schools, and leaving home behind.
When Kois and Smith first told the girls about the plan to spend the year traveling, they were met with excitement and apprehension. Their younger daughter, Harper, immediately began helping to prepare, while their eldest daughter, Lyra, pushed back at times on being made to do something she had never asked to do.
One concept Kois learned in the Netherlands is the Dutch poldermodel. It is a philosophy of cooperation, one used in both business and familial settings. At its essence, poldering means that all group members deliberate — for as long as it takes — until they reach a decision that everyone is satisfied with.
"Dutch people love rules in part because they had a say in creating them," Kois writes.
This doesn't have to be a decision that everyone agrees is the best one, but simply one that garners broad consensus. The poldermodel has been "adopted enthusiastically" into Dutch family life, Kois writes — and he and Smith began to practice it during their time there.
Retrospectively, Kois said that poldering with their children before setting out for a year may have made their trip smoother — and smarter.
"If we had sat down and talked about this year long trip with our kids before we went on it, if we had poldered it out with them, we would have averted, I think, a lot of heartache and arguments and bad days," Kois said.
One pressure point for the family was the different educational systems their daughters attended. For their older daughter, the Dutch system proved to be particularly difficult.
Kois' eldest daughter, Lyra, encountered the downside of poldering in her Dutch classroom. The group had already decided upon rules before she arrived, meaning she had no say in them.
In the book, Kois describes the significant cultural and social differences between the Dutch and American systems. The American system broadly fosters and prizes individualism, while the Dutch practice a "rigorous equity."
"Dutch schools are dismissive of individual achievement and admirably concerned with fostering an environment in which every child is treated the same, as a part of one well-operating classroom," Kois wrote.
But that didn't translate to a smooth classroom experience for Kois' outspoken daughter, who was facing the additional challenge of a language barrier.
As a kid "who's very particular and very vocal and does not like what she sees as unfairness or injustice, like many American kids who are not afraid to speak up about it, she basically broke her classroom," Kois said.
"Our sort of big overarching takeaway is the kids can basically survive almost any educational system you put them through," Kois continued.
People frequently asked how they made the trip work financially. Kois said there was 'a very explicit trade of money for time.'
Kois said he's frequently asked about how the finances of the trip worked. Now that they're on the other side of their travels, there's a fairly simple answer.
"We don't have any money," Kois said. "I mean we spent all our money, we spent most of our savings."
To prepare for their year, Kois said they saved as much as they could. While on their travels, they brought in income from two books Kois was writing — including the memoir — and Smith continued her work remotely, albeit more sporadically.
They rented out their home in Arlington for a little less than their mortgage payment, and sought out "economical" places to live in their new home bases. They sent their children to public schools and tried "not to make horrible mistakes."
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I found Chinese parents considered education to be paramount and went to great lengths to enable their kids to get the best education possible, whether that was taking out loans to send them abroad or moving hours away for better job prospects that would pay for school.
On a separate note, I also found that cashless payment methods had become the norm by the time I left in 2016.
Read more personal finance coverage. I left my native Canada to live in China for about eight years, working as an elementary teacher at an international school. To say it was a life-changing experience was an understatement.
As my reputation as a teacher grew, parents from other classes would approach me to help tutor their child to brush up on their English skills — everything from writing essays to improving their reading ability. Many of those families wanted their children to go to school in an English-speaking country like the US. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A 45-year-long study discovered trends in successful hyper-intelligent childrenSee Also:There are only 2 situations where you don't need life insurance — otherwise, you should have itI've only had my high-yield cash account for 4 months, but I've already earned over $111 in interestYou don't need a company with several employees to qualify for a business credit card — even side gigs like driving for Uber can count
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- Business Insider 22:06November 4, 2019A mother had a tiny pinworm laying eggs in her butt for 2 months, and it's more common than you might thinkGetty After experiencing two months of anal itching and bleeding, a 32-year-old mother underwent a colonoscopy and found out that she had a 1-centimeter pinworm living — and laying eggs — in her anus.
As many as 50% of children pick up pinworms, the most common worm infection in the United States, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).
Symptoms include itching around the vagina and anus, irritability, and nausea.
Visit Insider's homepage for more stories. After experiencing two months of anal itching and bleeding, a 32-year-old mother visited a medical clinic for a workup. A colonoscopy revealed that she had a 1-centimeter pinworm living — and laying eggs — in her butt, according to a report in the New England Journal of Medicine.
The woman's 5-year-old daughter had the condition too, which was eventually traced to the child's school, where a number of the girls' classmates got the same diagnosis. See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: Taylor Swift is the world's highest-paid celebrity. Here's how she makes and spends her $360 million.See Also:A baby died after being left to sleep in a car seat at daycare. His parents are speaking out to help protect other families.Women are using marijuana to cope with pregnancy symptoms like nausea even though the FDA warns against it13 funny photos of kids taken at the perfect time
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